ughh me and this guy met online. we met up for coffee Wednesday night and he told me before we met that he needed to go back to the office after. he was nice and we met for about 30 minutes. we were talking about some stuff and he asked me what my favorite food was. i told him mexican and he said we would go to a mexican restaurant. then he said he had to go back to the office and asked what i was doing and i said "well you have to do paper work so idk" and he said "Yeah i do" he apologized and then asked what I was doing Sunday. we said bye and then I didn't hear from him :( I caved in last night and texted him saying "Heyy" within less than a minute he said "hey whats up" i said "not much how are you" he said "still working how about you" I said "just relaxing, would you still wanna do something sunday?" he said "yeah in the afternoon" i said "yeah that works" and that was it. haven't heard from him since.
is he just not into things? why would he text me back and say yes to sunday?
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It sounds fake, because its so easy to fake, but some guys literally are just SUPER busy! If he's working even at night, he might just not have much time, and might have a hard time even pulling himself into the proper mindset to text you while he's working.
The fact that he texted back and wants to see you means he's still into you. Just understand that it can be really hard for people with super-busy careers to keep up with other people's emotional pace. If it were possible to do so without endangering his career, maybe he'd give you all the same attention you're giving him.
I can't say this is all the case for sure, as there are also some guys who pretend to be busy when they're really just lousy company, but it would be such a shame if he really is honestly busy and you ruled him out as not caring about you.
Truth is, I had this sort of problem with my last relationship. I was so busy with work and grad school, and she couldn't understand that my having less time to put into thinking about her and communicating was literally due to my impossibly over-crowded schedule, and not because I cared less for the relationship than she did. Ironically, my last relationship before that was a reversed role, where I was mad at my girlfriend who was overwhelmed with her senior year studying computer science. Bleh. =(0