So I've started dating this guy and he bought me drinks when we were at the pub. I was like 'oh no you don't have to do that I'll pay' and he was like 'why not?' so I couldn't really protest so I just let him.
I've got quite mixed feeling on this kinda thing. On one hand its kinda nice cos I feel like I'm being looked after and like the guy is taking control a bit which I like. On the other it kinda feels like I owe him and I feel bad because it's not like guys have more money than girls so why should he have to.
What do you think?
Do you think he woulda got offended my be trying to pay for my own? I know it's quite a small thing but I find it an interesting issue given that its 2014
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In the early phases of dating someone new, it's a cultural tradition for the guy to cover the lady's fees. We generally pay because we invite you girls out and we want to be a good host for you. Generally I see it as a good sign when my date offers to pay for herself early on, because it shows she cares about my finances and isn't likely to be a freeloader girlfriend. On the other hand if she insists on paying her way despite my offers to cover her costs, I would assume she is trying to put me in the friend zone and doesn't want to be a dating couple. So if you continue to date this guy further and you do more things with him, you can start paying your cover, and maybe even treat him yourself.1
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