How to put your girl in check when she snappy?

[_Almightylover_]

If a girl yells at you and trys to call you names and stuff what would you do?

yell at her, push her away

Kiss her, say you love her

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

Both of the options you presented are really poor.

Starting with B. B is poor, because it reinforces the idea in her mind that behaving poorly will get her attention and affection. So you'll see an increase in this kind of behavior (and who wants to be dealing with that all the time) since it gets her exactly what she wants.

Option A is poor, because it embraces her drama, let's her know you can be manipulated with drama, and teaches her that doing this will get her attention. So she'll keep doing it. Plus, don't know if you are saying metaphorically push her away or physically push her away--stupid on both accounts (esp. physically).

So what do you do? You don't give her the attention she wants. If she is yelling at you over the phone, you hang up immediately--she'll try to call back and text, don't answer. Wait about two days, then you can start talking to her again, as if nothing happened. If it's in person, you simply tell her she needs to get control of herself--if she doesn't get control of herself, then you make her leave (or if you're at her place, you leave). Then do the two, three day waiting period as described before.

What this does is teach her that poor behavior is not going to get her the attention and affection she wants. Poor behavior will result in you being distant or absent, or lead to a breakup. You'll see poor behavior disappear as she learns that you aren't going to tolerate it, and she'll seek healthier ways of relating with you when she wants your attention and affection.

Research Operant Conditioning. I learned and applied such principles all the time as a teacher (I had very well-behaved classes in a very tough urban school) and they are equally applicable in your personal relationships.

[meatballs21]

C. "If you won't talk to me like a fellow adult, I'm leaving until you do."

She has to stop IMMEDIATELY with the yelling and name calling. If she does not, or if she stops but starts it again, don't say a word or engage with her, just get up and leave.

[bandsandpuns]

Neither, just stay calm, let her cool off and talk about the situation later.
A) would make her more angry and might get physical - not good
B) ? no thought process behind that, would just piss me off

[pr3ttybr0wn]

girls like that won't respect you until you give it right back to them. be dominant but don't lose your temper. just check her and raise your voice let her know not to talk to you like that

[liveloverace21]

neither. call her out on emotional abuse and tell her thats an awful way to treat a person she's supposed to be in love with

[JackKerouac77]

Pull out your 9?

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[Tokana]

Its kissy kissy time..

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[mistninja314]

lmao GET A BEAT AND WHOOP HER ASS like her daddy use to

[Jade_H]

Don't ever yell back let her talk if she wants to especially if u still like her and after she's done than hug her but dont kiss her too soon or she might push you away wait till she's calm than kiss her

[Prettygurl12]

Neither of those options will solve anything.

[IBeOndat]

Slap her and say "bitch why u a hoe doe?" and theeeen kiss her and say you love her.

[AnnabelLee23]

walk away. BEST option.

[GoTake]

C) dump her whiny ass

[Anonymous]

i voted B

she is probably hurt and angry