Should I post his nude pics online to expose him?

This guy used me for sex, u was under the pretence that we were in a relationship together. His attitude toward me changed slowly and he became cold and just didn't care anymore, refused to explain anything to me about what happened and treated me like I was disposable. He was also sleeping with other girls the whole time. Thing is when we were "dating" he sent me nudes, I mean full frontal and all of that. I'm hurt and feel used and depressed and he's happy, living it up which isn't fair, especially after treating me like shit.

Should I expose him for what he really is?
Expose the lying rat
Vote A
Don't do it
Vote B
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I was under not u - iPhone 😓
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I have decided to not post the pictures online, I have deleted them altogether. Another update, he tested positive for HIV at some point last week, I have tested negative which I am thankful for. He really did put my life at risk. Those of you who called me naieve, remember that this could could happen to you some day as people show/tell you what they want to hear. Thanks for the advice, some more helpful than others!!
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  • I say don't do it. Why? Many reasons.

    -I believe this is illegal.
    -Guy nudes don't have as much "shock value" as girl nudes. Not many people would call a guy a "slut" for that. And not many people care about seeing a naked dude.
    -Guys typically don't care if their nudes or dick pics are shared (a lot of guys don't, Some might)
    -It will only give you momentary pleasure
    -It's best to just move on from situations like that.
    -One day, he'll learn

    I can tell you from my own experience, yea. I was crazy a little. When my first bf cheated on me, I was extremely hurt and wanted him to pay. So what did I do? I trashed his brand new truck. When we were together, I remember him working 2 jobs for so long and really saving up for that damn truck. He even got a loan to help pay it. When I found out he cheated on me the first time, I just forgave him and he begged me to take him back. My dumbass did take him back. He ended up cheating again. I was so fucking pissed. So, you break my heart, I break your truck. Bricked his windows, slashed his tires.
    Now, did it make me feel better? For a little while, yea. I'm petty as fuck, so it did. But then I felt bad. Not just for me, but for him. He worked so hard for that truck and in my rage I destroyed it. It didn't unfuck all those other women. It didn't unbreak my heart (dammit Tony Braxton, it's not that easy lol). Just like Jazmin Sullivan in the song "Bust Your Windows", I was still the one crying and hurt in the end.

    Revenge never helps. Sometimes, it is just best to let go and move on.

    My second ex (and most recent) bf did the same. SOB cheated. And he keeps begging for me back. Did I break his car this time? No. I just removed myself from the situation. I learned from my first ex, property damage is not as therapeutic as you'd think. I imagine "reputation" damage isn't as gratifying either.

    Just move on. Let that shit go. Trust me, it is much better.

    As for both ex bfs, they both still beg for me back.

    • I'm not like that anymore. I was once an angry as person haha. Now I'm not as much. So let it go my friend. You'll be a lot happier :)

  • Damn girl, I know how it feels! I understand that burning urge but, believe me, this is a pretty irrational phase, you'd regret it later even if you actually got away with it. Turn your pain into a driving force to elevation, do something to make you a better person. It's all about you at the end of the day. Bringing him down won't get you far, the last thing you need is more drama. It would suffice to just cuss the sub-human piece of shit out, and to mercilessly, verbally scar his ego where you know it would hurt the most. Let that dumb rat screw on thinking he's the slickest, most cunning man around, he will meet his end, HIV is prevalent as ever.

    • Thanks babe, he's just so damn nasty I'm shocked

    • I know girl, I know! It'll take time to come to terms with this shit. Now it's just pain and disbelief, but in time, you'll be laughing about this whole crap storm, beside a much better man. Let's face it, some things we gotta learn the hard way. Don't waste your emotional energy on this ultra-dumb, guiltless animal. Cry/ talk the pain out, get yourself a pleasant distraction and move on. Easier said than done, I know, but what to do?

    • I know, I have actually stopped crying, I'm at that pissed at fu*k stage at the moment lol

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  • Well no offence but its your fault too. When a guy is cheating or playing you - there are sign. Plus this a stupid move - he can sue you. Not to mention you're doing this because your pride and vanity have been hurt. Just forget it and move on and be careful next time

    • There wasn't any signs at all. Where do you think the shock came from? Lol

    • Well he covered well I guess. But don't do it - it'll make you look like you still want him and tbh if he has slept with more than 20 girls - do u really think this will affect him? He'd probably think it makes him look cool and will get him more girls

    • Why blame the victim? =_= Anyways, don't do it.

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  • guys don't really get the negative social stigma of having their nudes exposed like girls do so if your looking for him to be shamed publicly I don't know if that's gonna happen. unless his penis is really small or something its not gonna be that embarrassing

Most Helpful Guys

  • I understand being made a fool of. My ex wife did it to me. but as bad as you hurt don't stoop to his level. I refused to be brought down to my ex wife's level and was the better person.
    Keep in mind, it takes 2 to tango. You willingly had a relationship with him. So you were not forced into it. just because he didn't tell the truth doesn't mean you are completely off the hook. If you use things that were given willingly then you have a responsibility.

    Don't let yourself be lowered to his level. When you get past this, and it will take time but you will get past it, you will feel a lot better about yourself. You will know you were the better person.

    • Goos advice !!

  • I think this will simply result in him hating you and he will continue with his life just like before. I don't think a thing like this will "teach him a lesson" or make him feel remorse. He will probably just thing that you are a b*tch. But perhaps that's what you want.

    I understand you feel hurt but I don't think a thing like this will change anything. I will not advice for or against, it's your choice. Personally I usually choose the high road and from this my sense of morality and character grow.

    • I know what you are saying and I totally understand but I'm so pissed because I have never been in a situation where Iv been used.

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  • It's not really going to make you feel much better, and it's not going to stop him from doing the same to other girls.
    There's better ways to do this ;-)

  • if he's into exhibitionism then showing that to the internet world wouldn't do much in my opinion :\

  • Take your pride and walk away.

    Getting hurt is a part of life.
    That won't be the first or last time you are hurt by a man.
    You can't think of sinking the that level every time someone hurts you.
    Instead gather your feelings and try to deal with it.

    You are better than that!

  • Exposing his nudes would do nothing in your case, if he really was a player, he would show everyone the pics and be like "yeah, you see how I am, yeah Im that big" I don't know.. You're wasting energy on exposing him when you should be spending it out on yourself and how you can be the bigger person in all this, I would just dwell on it for a moment then move on with my life, it's one incidence.

  • Seems like he's just a garden variety asshole. I don't really think it's something you should do, but I understand the impulse.

    • Loool I love this answer, made me chuckle ;)

  • Don't. What he did was wrong, but don't let yourself sink to a worse place than he's been. Once you post those, they are up there for good and no amount of later regret would change that. How would you like it if someone did that to you? Also, depending on where you live, there may be laws against revenge p*rn .

  • If you wouldn't want it done to you don't do it. Everything you do to someone tour future partner will expect you to do to him.

  • BLACKMAIL THE ASSHOLEISH LARVA!

  • So you want to ruin his future to get a job or anything, because he has hurt you? Sorry, but that's just cruel and you won't get anything out of it.

  • No just learn from your experience and move on, stooping down to his level won't solve anything.

    • Also 'exposing' most likely won't cause him any harm, you are just wasting your time and energy.

  • No, God will handle the revenge. You will ruin his life by doing this. You do not want to do this. What if he changes in the future? Even if you don't think he will, he might. Don't do it. I don't think you'd want him to do that if it was the other way around.

  • Absolutely not, that's a real shitty move to pull and would make you a shitty person. Walk away and get over it, everyone gets taken for the fool at one time or another, emerging on the moral high ground is always worth it.

  • I caught my cheating on me and posted the naked pics of her and the other guy on fb. It was a bad idea. Almost sexoffender status. Luckly judge was nice and dropped it to disturbing the peace. Bunch of fines. It is not a good idea.

    • Thanks dude

  • I voted don't.

    I sent in a 'Take' on a site for 'myex. com' but G@G removed it today. I sent it in as a warning to girls that do sexting to be careful as relationships sour quick nowadays and your nude pix and videos will be online in a flash.

    Darling, in short, try to forgive and forget. Treat others as you would like to be treated. If the tables were turned do you want your pix out there? If you don't care, then try to think as if in the other person's shoes... but in the end, it is up to you.

    • Good advice, thanks x

    • That's why if you take nudes you should remember to always make sure your face isn't in it.

    • Well he's very much in them

  • He can sue you legally for cyber crime. You think he'll get confused about who did that, you are wrong.
    Forensic experts can find out the location of where the pics were uploaded.
    Source: My Forensic expert friends told me about that.
    Try uploading these from different computer.
    Good Luck.

  • I'm sorry he hurt you, a lot of lads, especially younger lads have no respect for their girlfriends and women in general, but I think you shouldn't lower yourself to his standards, just put it down to experience and move on.

    • Thanks

  • He probably wouldn't care, plus that's just going to make you look bad.

    Shit like this happens all the time, just live and learn.

  • Well honestly, yeah he was an ass for using you for sex, but you also let him do so. Take it as a lesson and leave it at that. Don't talk to him anymore and completely cut him off. Anything more only speaks bad about your character also. Unless he tries to do the same to you, leave it alone.

  • He can sue you legally if you pull a stupid stunt like that...

    • He wouldn't know it was me as he was sending nudes to a number of girls

    • Yes he would know if he sees his own nudes pop up on the net... If a girl did that to me to smite me, I'd sue the crap out of her too... not only would you be fined for doing this, you can face possible jail time and will have a criminal record for it

    • He would know as his pic would be online but he wouldn't know what girl done it. He slept with 20 different women when we were together- no protection and oral sex like gtfoh

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  • Yeah don't bother its technically a crime and people are never that bothered about guy nudes compared to girls.

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