Is there away i can get over it. I'm also really shy.
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I try to look at it like this. Using the example of asking a girl out:
If you dont approach because you are afraid - you don't get to go out with her
If you approach and are rejected - you sont get to go out with her.
So the worst outcome (being rejected) is the exact same as never approaching because you are afraid.
Another way to look at it is this... you own a restaurant that makes the best chinese food in town. Like THE BEST - but yet, some people on a given night won't come in your restaurant. It's not because your Chinese food is horrible, it's because they prefer Italian. You've not gone to a restaurant on a given night - even one you like - because you prefer something else.1