I met a guy on a dating site. I was seeing him for three weeks and he seemed very interested and always wanted to be with me. Then he started acting like just a friend, When I asked him about it he said he just wanted to date and wasn't ready to settle. And by date he meant more than just me. He texted his ex in my presence and two other times where he is just not around and his texts are short or non existent and each time I have told him do not contact me unless you are interested in a relationship with just me. Each time, he has come back to start over again, and each time he goes back to the same pattern. He states I'm too pushy on what I want. Last time, I spent two days with him at his house to find evidence of other women being there as well as other (multiple) women on his cell phone that he is contacting all the time. That was three days ago. He says he wants a relationship with me but not feeling it today. His text to me today said he had a lot of yard work and things to do around the house and has to get ready for the work week, since he has to get up at 6:00 in the morning. How would you get him to decide what he wants?
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That's for him to decide, he's making excuses based on common fears of being locked down and losing his freedom and no matter what you say you won't convince him. So it's better her for you to work on yourself and become better at the things you enjoy doing so you have more to bring into the relationship if it does happen. If he sees where as you are more distant ( something guys understand) it may peak his interest as in ie. Is she seeing another guy? He may panic and come running back when he does, if this is his pattern, you have to change yours and frustrate him, keep him guessing, be less available make him want to by way of your actions chase you. It's basically creating a paradox in his mind ( internal conflict) You were in the right to state exactly what you wanted and that is not too demanding, unless he's referring to something else. When making requests of a man ask him "Would you?" men hate being told what to do, it's most common to say "Can you?" this is a demand and challenge of his competency, keep things light, let him do the work to win you. Hope this helps.0
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