Im currently in a long distance relationship, how can i make it last and work?
How to make a long distance relationship happy and make it last?
What Girls Said 15
It depends how much distance there is between you and your partner and how often you guys do get to see each other. My friend and I were both in long distance relationships. The difference was that my boyfriend works 2 hours away and we rotate visiting each other every weekend, while my friend was dating an olympian who trains in different countries all over the world for months at a time. She would get to see him for a couple of days, and then he would be off in Greece, and then Japan and then Austria, or wherever for 2-6 months. Both of us are absolutely in love with our boyfriends, but being away from the person you love is a lot to handle emotionally. I hate saying goodbye every Sunday night with my boyfriend and I'd only be without him for five days. I watched my friend getting sadder and sadder with every visit her boyfriend made, and it just got harder and harder for her to say goodbye. I don't have much optimism for couples who have to go months without seeing each other, but for people who can see each other every weekend or maybe even every other weekend, it causes a lot of emotional distress. Advice I have is to send cute messages just to let them know that you're thinking of them, calling, face timing, texting, and jumping at every opportunity to possibly see each other. That's it :)1
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If you find out, let me know. Just ended one because it wasn't working. I think the best advice I can give you is for each of you to talk about your expectations of each other, see if they are doable, and if they are, hold each other accountable. Visit each other as often as possible. One thing that kept us together for awhile was watching the same tv show, it gave us something to talk about when there was a lull in conversation. Good luck!!0
Don't be the needy guy that you are!!! Don't expect her to text you back immediately or call you back immediately if she doesn't pick up the phone when you call her!!!
Don't make your usual assumptions about her!!!4
Always stay in contact! Talk on the phone/skype/snapchat/video chat EVERYDAY and if you can't simply stay in contact over chat! Honestly, long distance relationships don't last that long if you don't have an end goal, for example, have plans to meet (if you haven't met before). A big part of a healthy, strong relationship is sex, and you can't really have sex if you are far away. But every relationship is different and you'll make it work! Good luck!3
I know how u feel I am in a long distance to and me and my bf have been together for a year and a month
To be in a long distance relationship u have I be loyal to one another and not flirt with other girls and have trust in one another and always do diffrent things in the relationship try to make it interesting everyday talk about new things and talk about the future and just try to always keep her happy treat her like a princes make her the only girl always have time for her be with her in the bad and good times if u really love her n wanna make it work don't let her go so easily.1
This one is hard. I know because I'm kind of going through this myself. Mine is 2 different countries so it can get really really complex sometimes. I find, the key to keeping anything, is simplifying. Easier said than done. What exactly is the problem? Is there a problem?0
I have been in many... but none have lasted. So as long as she is keeping her legs closed and her mouth open (communicating with you even when she's pissed or hurt or doubtful of things lasting). Same goes for you... except keep it in your pants. Yes its possible, and keep your mouth open to communicate with her. Ultimately... I haveno clue though.0
Have a set date for when you'll finally see each other. It helps a lot having something to look foward to. That is the one reason why my long distance relationship failed. It felt like the distance between us would never end.1
Don't date long distance. It will last and be a lot better if the two of you were together in person.
My friend went to meet his long distance gf, and then decided to move in with her and find work where she lives. They are now engaged :)0
Be yourself, laugh most of the time, and have fun.0
Send her surprise care packages, trust each other, and realize that love conquers anything.0
Have loyality and commitment is all I can tell you.0
Try to have fun conversations both you and her will enjoy0
What Guys Said 17
In my university days, before smartphones and webcams, my friends would always get in long-distance relationships and they would crumble. They would talk on the phone, and get in an argument - and due to the distance, they could never make up in person (or have make-up sex) which probably put more strain on the issue.
When I got in my first LD relationship around 30 years old, I was fearful of this. I outlined several things to make my LD relationship work. Keep in mind that I was only dating this girl for 4 months before I told her I had to leave across the country for a year.
Rules of LD relationships:
1. Buy her a webcam and make regular video chats. In my case, I had to talk to her every day.
2. You must never mention another woman.
3. You must give subtle hints that you are not happy where you are because she's not with you. That means that you do not mention going to parties with other people, or having a fun time.
4. Even if you have nothing to chat about that day, keep the webcam on so she can see you watching TV, doing work at your desk, or eating a sandwich. In a way, you guys are living life together while apart, while also showing her there is no other girl around in your bed.
5. Talk only about positive things and funny things that happened (that doesn't include girls).
Realize that when you're apart, a woman's brain will always think of worst case scenarios. Are you seeing someone else? Are you sleeping with someone behind her back? Are you having so much fun over there that you'll forget about her?
Your actions should be aimed at alleviating those innate fears, without actually mentioning them to her.0
Best tips I have are simple talk often. Texting is great for during the day and webcams at night. Try to find ways to do cyber dates. Rent and watch movie while skyping each other. If you are both into video games that is even better, get a good coop game. Netflix and Skype are a great thing. Talk about your feelings and be honest. Never put yourself in compromising positions like going to a party with a friend who you know likes you. Im not saying you would cheat but being out with the opposite gender can make all those hard feelings about the Long distance really stand out. You will look around and go why am I putting up with this crap with all these great women right here. Visit each other as often as you can and make those trips the best you can.0
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Do a lot of Skype sex. It works great. Send her a daily text. Don't forget a card for the holidays and jerk off a lot to tie you over until you can be reunited.1
i'll tell you one thing... you'll never know if your gf is cheating on you in a LD relationship. if you can ignore this, then it MAY last :-PPPP0
I have lots of experience with this. The bottom line is, you'll have long periods of loneliness and sexual frustration, waiting for her, only to find out she's had a boyfriend or sex buddy there all along and kept you waiting.
Long distance relationships suck ass. Do yourself a favor and leave.1
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I don't know... I never had experience... but i'd say it's pretty hard. try using the phone or video chat rather than texting/emailing/facebooking/etc. a lot of times, people misunderstand the tone or attitude of their partner and get into unnecessary fights. trust me, it has happened... you want to get as real of a connection with her as possible.0
I think Skype would definitely need to be mandatory, so that you can see your love. However, long TERM long distance relationships absolutely NEVER work out. Only short term long distance relationships work between the two, although short terms don't work out that much better.0
Their are very hard to have u just gonna go day by day call her every day try to see every chance u get send her videos and pictures of u stay in contact with her every long distance relationship i had alway ended bur hopefully u love each other that miles is just a number good luck0
I've been in 4 and it's not a successful outcome most of the time. If both of you are very busy it woks better. We set visits 1-2 times per month with fun things planned and lots of sex. This was the best part. If you are not always staying occupied while apart, it is not fun.
if you fall deeply in love and then the other person breaks up, it really sucks. I say don't do it.0
My parents used to write letters all the time and visit each other for years. They looked happy in the old photos. That's the best I can say.0
I agree with earlobelover. My girlfriend and I live in two different states and when I text or call her I just wait for her to get back to me. We are both very busy people and I know that in her time she will get back to me. I know not to keep up trying to contact her. It would be a sure fire way to loose her.0
I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 years cause her dad but I see her like twice a month we hate it but we miss each other sooo much and its kind good that qe miss each other cause when we see eachother we give eachother long hugs and lost of kisses aha0
get out while you can she will get bored. trust me I wish I listened to my sisters. I gave that girl the world i traveled to mexico and met then flew her up here only for her to talk to more boys than me on Facebook hardcore flirting 2 years down the drain and 3 years getting over her. IF she's THE ONE just dont be jealpus let her do what she wants and dont question cause they get a stick up their ass when you get suspicious0
Honestly I believe there is no long distance success. I have tried it a couple times and even witnessed friends try it, it always failed because one of them cheated or something0
Long distance relationships always fall apart unless you go move closer the the other persob0
Being honest, keep the communication and good cam sex. ;)0
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