I'm 5'8, 145 lbs. I have a small frame. When I was younger, I didn't really feel like this was a disadvantage. But over the last few years in online dating, I feel like I am incredibly f---ed. I see the height preferences women are stating (5'11 minimum), and I feel like I'm either getting rejected online (for height) or in person (for weight).
I don't know what to do about it. I've thought about a few options:
- I could lean out. This would make me more handsome / chiseled, but I'd be very thin.
- I could get leg lengthening surgery. That would bump me up a few inches in height, but I'd look skinny.
- I could eat bigger (I already work out regularly) and put on 20 lbs of mostly muscle. That would give me size, but my face will get bloated.
What should I do? I feel incredibly stuck. I'm looking for practical, honest (non feel-good) advice.
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The girls that are cutting out more than 50% of the male population by default are simply making it known that they aren't the type of girl you should be going after.
Work out, do not get the leg extension surgery, and work on your face and personality.0