So We Made it to the Fifth Date. Now What?

Last night was fourth, he asked me to meet him tomorrow so it will be date 5. I am so attracted to this guy, he is truly a wonderful guy and I am thrilled to have made it out of the danger zone of the first three or four dates. Not out of the danger zone completely, though, as things could easily just stall out and die.

We laugh all the time, we have had sex and he seems quite pleased with it and me, he cuddles me all night while we sleep, he is constantly touching me in public (arm around me, hand holding) and has to hold my hand even if we are just sitting on the couch. So yeah, unless he is hella good player, I think he likes me. Last night I dug a little deeper in by giving him a back massage for no reason, for like 15 minutes. I could tell he isn't used to girls doing random kind, feel good things. Yay, score one for me.

We are not exclusive yet, and I know he checks his dating profile (only because I check, mine too), and I expect (though I am not for sure on it) that he dates others as well (as I do). So how do I stick out in his mind, edge those other chicks out (assuming there are others)? It is way early for any "talk," so guys, I just want to know what girls do that keeps them in your minds and could be the difference between THAT girl you want to keep vs others.

Updates:
Well that was fun while it lasted. I guess we were not compatible in the long run after all. He hasn't contacted me since Saturday, usually we have the next date lined up before the first is over.

Easy come easy go. Shame, I liked this one. Really though, I saw a lot of things that I didn't like as much Saturday, so all is well in the end.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • ok... look.. you are over 45.. I am 48... so enough with the games. Just be honest and tell him what you want. Yes, he is the guy and he should lead. But, some guys my age do not really get that, especially if they are new to dating say post divorce. In all my cases, yes I had to be the one to suggest exclusive and off dating sites, etc... but those women made it very obvious thats what they wanted before I asked. so, make it easy for him.

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What Guys Said 3

  • Keep things going, stay in regular contact, make new plans and have new adventures together! The only thing to beware of is smothering him, which you seem well aware of as you're not having the exclusivity talk yet.

    It sounds silly but you have to balance the regular contact with giving him a chance to miss you. You want him to be excited when he gets a message from you, not roll his eyes and go 'god, now what?' If I don't hear from the girl I'm dating for a while (longer than a day or two) then the doubt and worries start to set in.

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  • A week's resort vacation to his favorite spot would really move a gal ahead for me but not someplace where you're completely a fish out of water... I'll leave the payment options up to you two

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  • I would still hang out with him, ask if you think that maybe you both should stop using your dating sites, and then if he agrees, continue seeing him, and then eventually, he, or you, could ask to be exclusive, and make it official, that you are now boyfriend and girlfriend

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What Girls Said 1

  • How come you've already had sex but you aren't exclusive yet? I'm thinking that could be a clear sign

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