I really like a girl who happens to be in a wheelchair, I wanna ask her out but I'm a little nervous. I've never dated someone in a wheelchair, we are good friends and she apericiates when I help her. How should I ask her out?
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I think it'd be similar to asking out a girl who had her personality who isn't in a wheelchair. Just... obviously, you have to be aware of certain things and help out. Don't coddle her, but just be aware of the subtle things you'll have to think about. Most places, depending on where you live, have wheelchair ramp access, which is awesome. Just walk with her, just as you'd walk with any woman, stick to her pace, just like with any woman, and don't make weird conversations about it, and I'm sure you'll be cool.
Like... if you have a tiny car, picking her up and dropping her off somewhere might be more difficult, but I always hate that idea for a first date anyway, no matter who I'm talking to. If she's willing to be driven, say, by an assistant, or her folks, or can drive herself, then it's not an issue. If you're good at figuring out how to fit things in your car, or her chair is easily taken apart and put back together, then no worries.
I have a guy friend who makes hanging out with him very tough. He's a hothead and will scream at you if you don't know how to break down the wheelchair in two seconds. He's always begging for a ride, and he makes excuses for not doing much because of the wheelchair. He's constantly complaining and bringing it up. "He's "Mike... the wheelchair guy."
I know another guy in a wheelchair. He goes out to dance with women, dates models, is fun in a way girls like, and outgoing. I've noticed when people talk about him, he's just Tom. Same thing with another buddy who happens to be in a wheelchair. He's just Brian. The wheelchair isn't something that is who he is. He's just a cool guy. You don't feel like you have to coddle him or do everything for him like you're expected to with Mike. Guess who people want to hang with? It isn't the wheelchair. It's the person you want to spend time with.0