How should I ask out a girl I like in a wheelchair?

I really like a girl who happens to be in a wheelchair, I wanna ask her out but I'm a little nervous. I've never dated someone in a wheelchair, we are good friends and she apericiates when I help her. How should I ask her out?


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  • I think it'd be similar to asking out a girl who had her personality who isn't in a wheelchair. Just... obviously, you have to be aware of certain things and help out. Don't coddle her, but just be aware of the subtle things you'll have to think about. Most places, depending on where you live, have wheelchair ramp access, which is awesome. Just walk with her, just as you'd walk with any woman, stick to her pace, just like with any woman, and don't make weird conversations about it, and I'm sure you'll be cool.

    Like... if you have a tiny car, picking her up and dropping her off somewhere might be more difficult, but I always hate that idea for a first date anyway, no matter who I'm talking to. If she's willing to be driven, say, by an assistant, or her folks, or can drive herself, then it's not an issue. If you're good at figuring out how to fit things in your car, or her chair is easily taken apart and put back together, then no worries.

    I have a guy friend who makes hanging out with him very tough. He's a hothead and will scream at you if you don't know how to break down the wheelchair in two seconds. He's always begging for a ride, and he makes excuses for not doing much because of the wheelchair. He's constantly complaining and bringing it up. "He's "Mike... the wheelchair guy."

    I know another guy in a wheelchair. He goes out to dance with women, dates models, is fun in a way girls like, and outgoing. I've noticed when people talk about him, he's just Tom. Same thing with another buddy who happens to be in a wheelchair. He's just Brian. The wheelchair isn't something that is who he is. He's just a cool guy. You don't feel like you have to coddle him or do everything for him like you're expected to with Mike. Guess who people want to hang with? It isn't the wheelchair. It's the person you want to spend time with.

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    • She's definitely the latter.

What Girls Said 5

  • I think you should just do what you want and ask her out! Be sweet and caring and just treat her like you always do! There really isn't any difference between her or any other girl whether disabled or not she's still a lady! I don't it really matters as long as you like her then ask her out!! I have a friend whose in a wheelchair I don't treat him any different then I would a guy who isn't in a wheels chair so just ask her out !!~

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  • If I were you, I would treat her like any other girl that you would want to ask out. Make her feel special, of course, but don't make her feel like she needs special treatment. Just be sweet and caring, and nothing could go wrong.

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  • Just ask her out. Like you would do someone who wasn't in a wheel chair don't treat her differently. You guys are already friends. You'll be fine! Good luck! 😊👍👌

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  • The same way you'd ask out any other girl. Ask her out, take her on a date, and treat her well. Treat her like any other normal girl because that's exactly what she is. As long as you don't do something stupid like ask her to go skating, you should be fine. By the way just because she's in a wheel chair doesn't mean you guys can't have amazing dates. Obviously there's some things that you can't do, but there is tons of stuff that you can.

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  • Write her a letter
    "Wheel you go out with me?"
    Lol jk

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What Guys Said 8

  • The same way you ask any other girl out.

    Though I recommend squatting down when you do so she doesn't have to look up at you.

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    • Why would that be necessary?

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    • Now that I think about it, it might help. Thanks.

    • Don't squat as it may make her uncomfortable. Pull a chair out and sit instead. Some people react different then others.

  • just ask her out... whats the difference between her and some other girl that can walk -.-

    you better first accept she can do anything any other woman can do cause women dont like when you compare them... she's just like any other woman unless your complementing her then she's better... remember that

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  • "We should hang out sometime, what's your schedule like?"

    I've seen a few girls who use wheelchairs on dating sites, unfortunately my building is NOT accessible so it would all have to be at her place unless she was able to do a few steps away from the chair.

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  • Say "wheel you go out with me?". lol but forget what I said, I'm just clowning. But as someone who has a disability I must say that you first need to think about yourself and the stress that follows. You might get frustrated at not being able to do something "normal" couples can. If you decide you really want to be with her then just be yourself. Honesty is the best pickup line. I'm sure she will appreciate you. I know from experience that the best feeling in the world is finding someone that sees past your disability and just sees you. So tell her how you feel.

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  • she's a normal person. She will really appreciate it more than anything because she's used to being demeaned

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    • I know, it makes me mad.

  • Just like you would ask out any other girl. DO NOT try to make it extra 'special' for her. A person with a disability or illness wants to be treated just like everyone else.

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    • I understand, I just want to take care of her.

  • Ask her if she wants to go for a walk with you sometime.

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  • "So... Do you want to go out?"

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