After ignoring my texts for a couple of days, he finally texted back a response to one of them and mentioned us needing to talk. I asked him when we could, and he didn't respond. I called him a bit later and he surprisingly answered! He sounded in good spirits and said he was "busy" but we'd talk around 10 that night. He said everything was fine and we'd be fine.
Did not hear from him around 10. Tried to follow up by texting him about 11 if we were still going to talk. No response. Called him a 1 to tell him I was going to bed and was a little upset because I waited all night for him.
He was LIVID that I called him, claiming, "I was just about to get to you." We ended up not talking about what we needed to talk about, but he did spend the next hour yelling at me for being so annoying and overwhelming.
Weeks later after we had "broken up," aka him just disappearing and me never hearing from him again... I hacked into his MySms X_X and found that that very night that he was "busy" before we were supposed to talk,
HE WAS ACTUALLY ONLY BUSY TEXTING THIS GIRL HE PICKED UP AT CHIPOTLE AND ASKED OUT (while in a relationship with me). He sounded happy on the phone and rushed me to get off because he was in the middle of flirtaciously throwing himself at her. The timestamps all add up. That texting conversation lasted until around 10 but didn't end in his favor because she ended up cancelling their dinner date... which he was so sad about because he was already brainstorming of places to take her to (how thoughtful) and because he really liked her and was so attracted to her (aw!).
I guess him yelling at me was a projection of his frustration over this rejection. Also she's 19 and he's 26 and did I mention, I was his girlfriend?
"Busy" will never mean the same to me again.
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On the scale that you suggest, he is an arsehole.
Thank the other girl for taking him off your hands. She has done you a huge service.
Re-evaluate what you find attractive in men. Could it be that you are drawn to the arseholes?
Move on and make a better choice next time.1