So recently i read this blog where a girl mention the differences between the good girl and the "bitch".
How she explained that good girls are the ones that tend to be the needy ones and want to please the guy all the time and the bitch is the one who stand up for herself.
I somewhat related to the good girl.
I am 22 and I've never had a boyfriend so whenever i date someone or talk to a guy for a long period of time i tend to kind of forgett myself and stop caring after myself but instead i want to please him and want to make him like me more. . and I've realized that it only drives him away from me. Am i right?
Because the last guy i dated, he was so into me and we had a great time always and he told me the reason he liked me was because i was easy to talk to and confident and cute and funny. But the moment i started to show him that i care, like i made us dinner with candles on Valentine's day.. after that date he pulled away and didn't talk to me as much, leaving me to think what did i do wrong.
I mean i "manned" up and asked him because i wasn't going to let him treat me that way.. and he said he wasn't looking for anything serious because he doesn't have the time and i some what understand and i didn't make a big deal out of it even thought i was really hurt.. but i just kept it calm and polite and said i respect his decission and we decided to remain as friends because he said i was a cool girl.. by the way he didn't live in my town at that time but he does now and when he moved to my town he wanted to meet me and we had a grea time but nothing more than that.
I mean i dont think i should totally be a mean girl and be angry and bitter and be a bitch. But im very independant and i have my focus on things but i think i shouldn't put all my focus on the next guy i date because once he is out of my life ill be broken again. Is that the way it works? Am i weak because im a good girl'?
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Not for me. My girl was loving, kind and went out of her way to please me... I married her!
I'd tell you to be authentic. If nice is you... then be it. Don't play games. Just keep at it. Ask guys out that you are truly interested in.
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