So I had been seeing this woman for about 2 months when she started becoming harder to plan dates with. We finally did go out again after about a week and a half and she said she does really like me but isn't ready for a relationship because she is too busy.
I thought she was trying to let me down easy, but when I said I wouldn't see her anymore she protested and said she really did like me, she wants me in her life, and that when she does have time she thinks of me first. Then she started to cry saying she just really busy trying to keep up with other friends too and she had to go to the doctor twice the week before, and she was planning on moving before she met me but now she may want to delay it.
It's been two weeks since that talk and since then she texts me almost everyday to ask about my day, stopped by my apartment 3 times, and we're going on a romantic date next week (or at least it was a date when we planned it a month ago). She asked if I wanted to invite someone else, but I told her I wanted her to come and smiled.
Could she be scared of a relationship? She's told me other guys have cheated on her, including one she was engaged to. I asked her though and she said that's not the reason, she trusts me, she really is just busy. Not sure if I believe her though. I went out with another girl twice after she and I agreed to be "just friends" and her best friend told me she was really upset and hurt when she told her.
So what do I do in a situation like this where a woman says she is not ready for a relationship but has strong feelings for me? I really do like her, but I don't want to play games either. Should I continue to treat her like a romantic interest (long hugs, holding hands, stuff you usually don't do with just a friend) and give her another month so she can be reassured of my feelings for her? Are there signs from her I should look for? Should I treat her as just a friend until either she makes a move or until I find someone else?
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She means just that she isn't ready... You can't just jump into something. If you or she hasn't fixed any underlying problems yet, the relationship has a high change of failing. Timing is everything... The chemistry could be there but if there is something holding someone back that will prevent so much
If she likes you, which it sounds like she does, I doubt she will be searching while she is getting ready for a relationship. Patience darling patience, everything works out the way it was meant to be in the end. This relationship could take months to happen but if its a healthy relationship with all underlying problems fixed you will ultimately win in the end.
That being said, just show her on why she should continue to pursue you :) show her you are no to fear. The past is the past, yes it hurts, but it teaches us lessons. Without lessons, we do not learn. If we do not learn, we do not grow. If we do not grow, we will be stuck in the same place. Hope that helped darling1