Dating this good looking guy and it has been 4 dates. He's really nice to me and we also do very well in bed together. I didn't like him initially because I didn't think we had anything in common. I still don't think we do. We aren't connecting intellectually which was the most important thing for me in my past relationships. Don't mean he's less smart but he knows very little about the things I care about. Sex seems to be the main thing we connect with. 😐 He also messages with too much Internet acronyms and sometimes bad English . Should I give this more dates or get out before I get even more emotionally invested? Already starting to feel emotionally attached
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You are feeling emotionally attached because you are having sex. That's what sex does. It was designed to bring two married people together even more intimately than when they were just dating.
It is unfortunate you are using this most treasured tool, without making any sort of foundation beforehand.
What degree of lasting happiness do you think you will achieve living like this? Sleeping with people who are essentially strangers? Where do you feel this will go in a year? five years? Ten?
May I recommend something? Start with the foundation, first. Get to know him. His interests. What he enjoys... Spend months getting to know him. See if he is interested in your heart, hon. See if he is willing to man up and love you without sleeping with you. Many men are not.
If you can wait until marriage, be chaste, and abstinent, you may just be rewarded with a life long partner and lover. True love brings good sex, never the other way around.
There are no shortcuts in life.
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