So I ve started to like this guy, I guess. Except I don't really feel like I like HIM. I feel like I like the idea of him. He is really cute and funny and nice. I don't know why I wouldn't like him. I'm just really confused. How do I start liking HIM as a person and not just the thought of him or the imaginary version of him I've created in my head.
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You have discovered the secret of human attraction and error.
So many women (and men) fall for the "idea" or a persona, and not the person themselves.
What is likely happening here, is that your gut is telling you, he is not compatible with you... But you enjoy the act he puts on, who he might *want* to be. that is pleasing.
But his soul, his heart, might not be something you can live with.
Very good, keep listening to your gut, and differentiating who someone really is with who they want to be or who they project themselves to be.1