I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months. I was at a bar a while ago where guys were hitting on me. I told them I had a bf (even though we aren't in a relationship yet, we did agree on wanting one) and one of them seemed ok with it. I lost my friends so me and the guy started talking, completely platonic. I later found my friends and said goodbye to him. I went in for a quick hug but he held onto me and kissed me on the cheek.
I told my guy about this this Sunday since I felt really bad about it all.
When I began to tell him about the guy I could see his pulse on his neck beating both hard and fast, even though we were on separate ends of the bed. After I told him everything he sighed in relief and put his head on my lap and said I was the cutest and it was fine. He repeated "it's fine" several times without me asking which led me to believe it wasn't. The night progressed and it was back to normal, but before leaving he said "try not to let guys kiss you next time, okay?". He didn't say it in a rude way but it kind of confirmed that it did bug him a bit. Which is fine.
I texted him yesterday and we talked for a bit. He didn't respond to my last text so I just let him be since I figured he was busy. He did tell me he was at the studio making music. We do usually always say goodnight if we've been texting but not yesterday and he didn't respond to the text I had sent him which has never happened before, but I saw that he was online on Facebook.
The thing is that he's got a gig tonight and I was invited by him on Facebook to come, this was before I told him though so I'm not sure if he still wants me to come or not. What do you think? Should I go? Am I reading too much into things?
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he's says it's fine, but it's not. and it shouldn't be fine. he feels betrayed but he is trying to be calm about things. he may also be questioning a relationship with you
if you want a relationship with him you need to take steps to show that you are into him and only him. that guys kissing you isn't something that he'll need to worry about
go to the gig if you want to. not going however may send a sign to further confirm that you may not be as into him0