I met this guy on tinder and we had gone on 5 dates. He texted me every day, we did have sex, but he told me he really liked me a lot. he talked about future things like taking me to his best friend's wedding possibly in may, told me he missed me all the time. Last Wednesday I got insecure and started asking all these questions. He told me he liked me a lot and said let's take things day by day. For some reason I was feeling insecure and emotional and I kept bothering him and later that night I said "is everything ok between us or are you cutting me off?" he said "omg again? I'm about to cut you off" then things seemed fine and Thursday and Friday I felt I redeemed myself. He told me he missed me but wasn't talking about making any plans at all. Friday night he seemed to be short and distant so I left things alone and then Saturday morning I texted him we were talking a little but he was taking awhile to respond and answers were short. It made me feel really insecure so I mentioned hanging out Sunday. he said "ok" that response bothered me and I got insecure and ended up texting him 50 times. I know it was so crazy, I got panicky and there's no excuse. he answered me Sunday morning and told me he's done and doesn't wanna deal with this. he said "we've known each other for 3 weeks and you're already pulling crazy shit" I said "it's funny how after sex everything changes." he said "Yeah you have" and he got so pissed. he told me i'm sick, I have problems and he's done with my childish bs. I feel so upset. I know I ruined everything. He got out of a 7 year relationship a month ago so I'm not even sure if he was ready for a relationship. I am beating myself up over this, I made so many mistakes I don't know how to fix things.
1. Is there any chance he will come back around?
2. Do you think he genuinely liked me?
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No, you gave him sex. For a man there is no other more intense way to bond with you. And you gave it to him.
At best, you will be the backup lay, someone he can go to in the future when things are not going well, to take the sexual happy pill with.
This is why i never advocate for sex before marriage, because obviously after 5 dates, there is no real foundation of love between you two. Of mutual understand that goes heart deep. It's just not there. Especially if on his mind is having sex with you.
In the future... Do not allow a man to have sex with you. If that's all he wants, he will eventually go away. He never loved you for your heart to begin with... And now you have a lot of emotions to deal with because you surrendered your body to him.
His words might have been true when he spoke them, but without a lasting foundation between you two, they are as empty as the air.
It is funny how after sex everything changes, hon. You said it yourself.0