So the guy that I am seeing and I are both going to our respective hometowns over Christmas and last night I said that I was going to miss sex for three weeks. He said "Maybe you could find someone in..." I replied, "No." He asked, "Why?" and I said I didn't want to. I asked him if he was going to find someone when he went home and he sounded quite shocked and said, NO!"
A bit after he was talking about things that we will do after Christmas and said, "We aren't official but I like this. We both can do our own thing/have our own lives and see each other." I agreed with him that I like having my own life but I also like seeing him. I brought up my deal breaker and said, Nothing has to change with us but my thing is if you sleep with other people -that's it. Over" And he said, "I'm not."
Then he invited himself to stay over -something that has only happened once before.
It might sound stupid but on his part was that the "relationship talk" or and I just reading too much into it? Also if that was the "talk", from a guy's perspective does it seem reasonable?
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I would say that the "maybe you could find somebody else" while your away line was a serious test from him. He was testing your commitment to him. You said no, and he'd be well happy with that. If he says too much to you he runs the risk of scaring you off, but that line and that answer would have meant so much to him. And then spending the night with you speaks volumes. He's well into you.5