I went out on a few dates with a guy I met on an online dating site. We spent hours together, talking, eating, drinking, listening to music and watching movies. We slept together after the 3rd date and he made me breakfast the next morning and even stalled me from leaving. k
I knew he was going out of town for Thanksgiving so I asked to see him again a couple of nights before he left and he said he was too swamped. Ok, understandable. Well, he let me know he arrived safely, texted Happy Thanksgiving, and let me know he made it back. I asked if he wanted to go dancing the weekend he got back and he said he was catching up on work and working late that night and going in to work the next day. I told him never mind and I was going to go out with friends. I have not heard from him since, it has been a week. I am still dating other guys but I really liked this one and he seemed to listen and like me too. Should I leave the situation alone or call him once more? Part of me thinks if he was interested he would have called me by now, the other part feels like reaching out will be a mistake.
- Leave it aloneVote A
- Call himVote B
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Ok I am in kind of a simlar situation, with not hearing from someone for a week now. You actually did initiate the last few date requests and were turned down with no alternative nights given. It sucks, but I think you and I are both riding the boat of "He's just not that into you." I thought mine was, trust me the sudden ghosting came after a perfectly PERFECT date and I never even suspected it was coming.
Someone mentioned that it is the curse of online dating, the ease that these guys can slip into your life, get whatever they want/need for as long as they want/need it, then just move on to the next one with a mouse click.
I am dating others as well, tonight is the first date after he disappeared a week ago. My heart is not in it, but I need to try. You never know if the right one is right around the corner. I made several other dates for this weekend and next week as well.
I am not giving anything up this time, not my heart, not my soul, or my body until... well, heck if I know when. Seems no matter how long you guard yourself, they will out wait you and hurt you anyway.
Don't give him the satisfaction of contacting him. I actually deleted all the contact info out of my phone for mine after four days of him not contacting me so I can't call him if I wanted to. Thank goodness, or I might have. Bottom line and one that is so true... if you gave him every indication that you are interested and he isn't calling you, he just isn't into you any more. Who knows why and really... who cares. Mine went out of his way to be sure the last night was perfect, even asked me if I was happy, I guess to be sure it hurt more when he ghosted lol. Actions speak louder than words.
Repeat after me... NEXT!!!2