I broke up with my recent bf, and there was a guy (friend) who pressured me to get rid of my bf because he has no money, can't afford things like gas. so I did. guy all know me. friend makes move on me, we end up having sex. (I had intended to wait) "friend" says we're not just friends but introduced me as gf to his friends mom, dad and boss. they like me, according to him. I'm confused because this is almost and during the time I didn't know he liked me. I did not like the fact he didn't view sex as something 'special' to me, it wasn't abig deal, he had been with 10 girls or more before me. he did take me out to dinners and movies, but obviously I feel empty when he tells me it's "nothing". he drives me to work, my mother says things like 'he doesn't love you if he doesn't marry me". she says he played me because he still says I like you physically, and every day my feelings grow stronger. and tells me his vision of his gf waking up making him breakfast and he heads off to work and goes home. he says he has plans to buy a house in a few months. I feel unsettled because I had wanted to have time to heal. at times obviously I told him to stop because I didn't want to have sex. I was tired that night when I went to his place. I need help and seeing a counsellor soon. I don't think he's 'using me' but I feel he does not give a shit that I'm close to virgin or that it was special to me- that should be automatically enough to put me to gf status, why is it that he's not? I feel insulted and don't want to talk to him. today he said "I'm afraid of losing you" because my mother had been trying to take me to coffee. and told me he's a 'pimp' liar and doesn't give a fuck about me. she said he shouldn't just fuck you for free and then now pretend he's anything, he looks gross, he looks like he has a disease etc. this happened all in a week. the guy said he wants to see me tonite for coffee and tomorrow. he cancelled plans with his friends to be with me. what to do right now?
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Tell him you need time. If he loves you he will wait, if he just wants sex, he won't.
Time will give you time to reflect and will also prove what he thinks of you.1