so I'm seeing this guy , we're not officially together or anything but he asked me to go out with him 3 times now. we text each other sometimes. but the problem is that we don't find much to say when we're out. i try to ask him questions to keep the conversation going but all he does is to answer the question i asked. i don't know what to do. and it feels like when i tell him something he's not interested. but he says he wants to meet again... i don't know what do around him anymore..
The guy I'm seeing is kinda "boring"?
What Guys Said 4
His social skills are abysmal. He likes going out with you because it means he can tell people he has a girlfriend, therefore making him feel as though he is important - this means that to him you are nothing more than a self esteem boost.. essentially a trophy or a badge or a tool. He likes going out with you for the principle but he isn't really making it into a memorable experience is it. He's not interacting properly. It's all very selfish. Funny thing is all that harsh stuff I have just said about him, well he's probably not even aware of it at all. He isn't aware that he's selfish, but he is. What he is getting out of the dates is the ability to truthfully say that he has a girlfriend, but you are not getting anything out of it. Probably all comes down to him being immature primarily. He's not ready yet. Still a flipping kid.2
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Sometimes you don't click with people and the conversation doesn't flow. Perhaps he'll get comfortable and open up in time but it doesn't sound like he's making the effort. Most girls would get fed up and move on, so you shouldn't feel bad if you do. He's got to learn to be more engaging! lol1
Find someone new, but don't tell him he's boring it will kill his confidence. He maybe nervous with you.1
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