For example, would you guard yourself against dating a female? If so, why? Does age play a factor (meaning, if you're younger, you're more likely to do so etc).
I ask because a guy I was "with" for a couple years (never title-bound) would ping-pong with feelings. One day he loves me, next he swears he never said it. One minute he can't see his life without me, next "this is just physical". It's driving me mad. There are times when I'm able to get MORE from him. For example, he once admitted that I scare him because I know him better than himself, his friends, and his family and he's afraid I'll hurt him (he had broken up from a 6+ yr relationship about a year before "us") and sometimes, he will randomly admit that he thinks other guys from my race will stare at him because he thinks that THEY think he isn't good enough -- that it bothers him and he doesn't know what to do or how to take that, so he's cautious. However, if I bring THAT up, then I'm "making it up" and I'm "delusional" (mind you, I have the texts and a few voice mails).
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your question and subtext don't match at all. but really nobody wants to be pressured to put labels on stuff. and, catching feelings is scary because you become weak emotionally and mentally. its like putting your happiness in somebody else's hands, it is out of control. you give the other person the power to destroy you. maybe you put too much pressure on him when you should have been enjoying your time together. he may have some self esteem issues too. people always want to reach a destination and forget to enjoy the journey. if it is good, no need to rush things. a ring/relationship status does not guarantee anything.1
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