I met a guy, we text and called and a week into it, we literally stayed up all night, talking about our families, our lives, deep personal things. Things we want to do, likes, dislikes, etc. By morning, there was this deep attraction growing and we knew it. He asked me to dinner for later that day and I accepted. We had a great time, laughing and he even sat directly next to me so to touch my hand and such. After, we decided to sit and talk a while longer before calling it a night. One thing led to another and we started to make out, mind you I am 45 years old and have not done this in over 18 years. So, I go back to his place with him and we continue to have deep conversation. I make it extremely clear that I am not a casual relationship type. I like him a lot. He too agrees that this is something more. We have an amazing, I mean over the top amazing sex and sleep in each others arms. Cuddling, kissing, back massage, all the above. I felt so special. We showered in the morning, sat holding hands and talking, long long hugs and kisses for a while before my leaving. He was on his way to pick up his son... so we headed out together, we stopped for coffee and once again, the small hug and leaning in for that kiss. He told me to drive safely and blew me a kiss and told me he would call me later. I text him, that I had an amazing time and I could not wait to see him again. Hours later, I get this bizarre awkward text saying that he didn't think we were a match and that although he liked me a whole lot... before feelings get in the middle, that it best we move on... I tried to ask for an explanation and or at least a face to face one and he said it would only complicate things more. What? Had I read this guy wrong from the start? I asked to be friends... nothing. He did however, apologize several times and said he was truly sorry. What the hell? I have and I mean never have had a one night stand! The ones I slept w/on day 1, ended in relationships! Can someone explain?
Can a guy who takes the time to really know you... just being using you to have sex?
What Guys Said 2
its totally possible.
"I will move mountains for that pussy"1
Yes he could well be but a majority of players will want sex with minimal effort. If a player knows you're going to make him prove to you that he's serious about you he's likely to bail, but there are players who will stick around, tell you what you want to hear, they'll be that perfect man, you'll have sex and off he goes. m
From what you've posted it sounds like you got played by an experienced veteran.0
What Girls Said 4
maybe he called again to have some more but I doubt he is serious... I think u shouldn't have anymore sex until he knows what he wants unless u don't mind giving him without any comitment0
I'm sorry this happened to you. Yes you got taken in by a smooth player. It wasn't his first I would bet not his last. Put it down as a learning experience.0
Yes he took all that time to get what he wanted. He played you and now he on to the next. Sorry he dios you like that.1
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