I'm a bit shy but I want to be an a relationship. I've tried finding guys to date but they ALWAYS turn out to be one night stands. Even if I date them for a month or two. The longest was 4 and the minute we spend the night together he's gone or completely uninterested. I'm tired of this happening. I'm shy so approaching just anyone and asking them out is almost out of the question. Not because I'm lazy but biological response to the anxiety.
How can you tell a guy's intentions? Is it body language, discussion topics?
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The biggest sign is trusting your gut. Look for signs of ingenuity. Look for the small things and gestures he does, it tells you MORE about a person than the $500 dollar purse he buys you. You wanna look for things that reveal his TRUE character, not the one that he's showing you to sway you into bed.
Here's some good advice I read from the web
"My personal test is to see what happens when you put a person into stressful situations: in crisis, a challenge, in conflict, with a big problem to solve, with an injustice in front of them, a temptation in front of them or an experience that would require self control, judgement and wisdom to handle well.
Sometimes the tiniest amount of stress can reveal someone's true character"
"The ways they evaluate other people can tell you a lot about someone. Do they start with how they take care of themselves? Or what they read, watch, and listen to? Or how about how they treat others? Vocabulary can tell you a lot about where a person's from, what they do, and what they're thinking. One of the more reliable ones for me is what stresses them out, and how they react to it. Or do they rely on superficial characteristics like race and stereotypes (stupid liberals or ignorant conservatives)? And how accurate are their evaluations? Do they make an immediate assumption and stick with it, no matter what new evidence is presented, or do they take their time and reserve judgement until they have more facts?"2