Okay so I let my boyfriend down this past Wednesday because I failed to make it to his important bowling game. It was the final play offs for his job based bowling competition.
Initially he knew that I might had to work that day. Sooo he was half expecting me not to make it. I called him up after I got off and I jokingly told him that I wasn't going to be able to make it. He was just like "oh that's fine". So I turned right around and just said I'm kidding I can make it I just wanted to see if you'd be a little disappointed if I didn't came. He responded "yeeah-SIKE!". So I was like OH... okay. I just thought he could care less if I came or not. Actually he didn't even invite me to the final game I had to ask him about it. Which is another issue I will mention later. Well I told him I was gunna go for a quick jog and shower then head on out. He was like okay. Well long story short I wound up arriving late. I actually had to clean up my apartment for inspection that day and my mom reminded me of that when I got home.
So I finish up and head out I wound up being an hour and a half late. They lost the first round making them lose to second place in the competition. I see him and I ask if he is okay. He responds he's fine but he has an attitude and I could tell he was upset. So we go inside with his team. He basically sits with his back turned to me. Doesn't acknowledge me or anything.
To make an even longer story short I ask him what's up and he's all like "we'll talk about it later" but I was like no you won't treat me like this after I've driven all the way our here to support you. His response was that I was being selfish and shoukd have let him ignore me because I was late.
I kind of feel like he's a bit controlling. I don't know. I've never had any of my exes treat me like he has.
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I can see both points of view here.
You were an hour and a half late, he was losing, he was in a bad mood and acted immaturely and you should have let him cool off and then later on that evening could have had a chat about things.
It's really not a good idea to confront someone when they aren't in a positive mood, it leads to arguments, confrontation and this is where hurtful comments can get bandied around like confetti.
I don't think he's being controlling here, I do think he's being deeply immature.0
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