I'm 23 & he's 30, is that too much of an age gap?

I'm about to be 24 in a month, also he just turned 30 2 weeks ago. I'm a little nervous talking to someone who's that older than me. The oldest guy I dated was just 2 years older than me. But this guy is pretty chill. Should I just see where it goes? Or is that to much of a difference and he might have maturity issues?


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  • That's nothing. The older you get, the less a year means. Huge difference between someone 23 dating a 16 year old (eww) and a 30 year old with a 23/almost 24 year old. I think I met my girlfriend when she had just turned 23 and was about to turn 28. We're still together, I'll be 36 in two months, and she turns 31 (29 if she asks what I told you :-P ) next month. Once you're 23, 24 years old, pretty much anyone is fair game, we're all adults here, just depends on what you're cool with and how much the age affects your ability to relate to each other. But if you like him, go for it! Good luck!

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    • Yeah we can relate a lot to eachother, he's young at heart I should say, but still mature. So its a nice balance. :) I'll see where it goes. Like you said it's fair game. :) thanks for the advice!

    • No problem, glad I could help! Yeah, just like with anyone of any age, all you can do is just see where it goes. Hope it all works out for the best :-)

What Guys Said 8

  • pfff hardly a difference

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  • i think this age difference is fine, after all, they do discuss the 7 year difference a lot as if 7 is the magic number, but do what you want

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  • Doesn't seem like much of a difference. I dig older women. They have more wisdom.

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  • not really... at the end of the way will be 90 you'll be 83... you both will be old...

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  • See where it goes. Hopefully you two are at the same stage in life.

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  • It's not a massive age gap at all. You're an adult, he's an adult, it's fine.

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  • no. women usually go for more mature/older men.

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  • Kind of weird for me, as a guy at least. I know girls like older guys, but that kind of gap is like you two are at difersnt stages in life, but he. Again I don't know

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What Girls Said 9

  • It's not that much but it become a problem if you want different think in your life. When you're about the same age, you often want the same things, live together, marriage, babies. That's the main risk when there is a bigger age difference. If you just want to enjoy a relationship and if he already want to take things really serious, it could be a problem, other than that... it's okay I guess

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    • He's real active. He goes out and makes the best of his day. Which I really like, and I'm not looking for anything serious just a casual fun relationship. If it gets serious I'm game. But yeh thanks :) I'll see where it goes.

  • Nah, 7 years is not too big in my opinion.

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  • It just means he is good at not being nervous. He's been around the block too many times.

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  • I think it is fine 7 years of age gap

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  • Go on ahead and see how things play out! It's only a 6 year difference and it's not like your fresh out of high-school and he's 30. You're both adults.

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  • 7 years? kidding me if he was married he would have a girl in ur age by now

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  • I wouldn't mind the distance between the age in case u like him and its going well. 7 years are nothing big I would be insecured if he would be like 10 years older or even more

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  • See where it goes.. u you guys are both okay with it... then why not?

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  • I think you're a bit young in that you may be vulnerable to things and perhaps that's what he's hoping. Also you're at different life stages. I'm almost 30 and was just different at your age. I don't think this is a failure from the start but I'd really need to know more specifics is all. Just be careful. I mean, I don't have anything in common on a deep level with a guy your age. Also could say something about his maturity level. Just be careful

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