Me and this guy are kind of together at uni, like we spend most days together (not all day, but I spend time with him every day), but we're not what people would call "official". We both like each other, and it's not like it's all secret where no one knows because we hold hands etc. in public often. But, I've come home for Christmas and people keep asking me about my 'love life' and if there's a guy. My answer is obviously yes, but then they ask me if he's my boyfriend, and I don't know how to reply because we're not.. but then he's not just some random guy I'm 'seeing' either. What do I say to people who ask me whether he's my boyfriend or not? I don't want to freak him out if he thought I'd been telling people at home we're in a relationship because it's only like the start of something if you get what I mean? It's so awkward trying to describe it to people. Has anyone else been in this situation? and if so, how did you deal with it?
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I call it a Crushationship. It's the half way point between being friends and being boyfriend/girlfriend.
It's the step where you usually have a couple of dates to get yourself acquainted with the person more.
However it sounds like you already know this person a lot, so I would suggest you dive right in and ask them to be your boyfriend. :) If you feel a connection and you both hold hands, he should say yes!
I've only been in this situation once, that's because the girl was unsure if she actually wanted to have a relationship at the time. We still held hands and hung out a lot, yet she never actually showed her affection,
Eventually she found out she didn't actually want a relationship at all yet, and that she wanted to stay single longer. So she decided to "ease" me into rejection by saying she was asexual (unable to feel attraction for either gender).
This is how I dealt with it (as you asked), I did get a little mad because I knew she was lying to me... However I didn't yell at her, I actually tried to understand her situation.
So if you think that your partner is unsure about your crushationship or a future relationship then you should speak with them about it.0