I am seeing a blunt guy, who likes to say and joke whatever is on his mind. Although this unpretentious trait is what makes me attacted to him, it is also causing hurtful feelings whenever he made comments on my vulnerabilities. For example, he made comments that he saw my belly flap or tht i am half balding like a professor (im not balding, just that my side hairs are thinner than the rest). Or when he joked how old is my ex. These are all the things that i am not confident of, but trying to cover.
Questions for blunt men or anybody... If he does everything to show that he is interested in pursuing a relationship with me, do i have something to worry about his blunt comments? Is it just my own insecurities surfacing up?
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I think it is a combination of both. I am pretty blunt but don't usually try to hurt anyone's feelings especially if I am dating them.
You have insecurities, by your own admission. People these days get their feelings hurt really easily. Just ask yourself if his comments are something you can live with for the long term. If not, try talking to him about it. If he doesn't respect that, then you know what to do.1