He's talking to his ex because she said she needs him and she's unstable without him. Classic post-breakup clingy behavior. The problem is he actually believes continuing to talk to her will help. He also wants to be her friend in the future. He trusts her opinion that "talking to her will help her get over him and be more stable" over mine saying it won't.
She also tells him how much she misses him and their relationship, etc. even though she knows we're dating. He just brushes her off and ignores it.
How do I deal with this?
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I'd consider myself a pretty nice guy. (I mean I get bullied a lot but it never continues cause I don't put up with anyones shit I just figure I'm nice and look nice so they think I'm an easy target) so maybe not yet but I did learn violence CAN solve things. Try and just tell her that it's not healthy and he's moved on and she needs to too. If she persists and even try's to seduce him or get physical then you can explain how that shit's not cool and if it gets worse then tell her you'll have to beat the living shit out of her if she won't leave you two alone. I feel really bad saying this cause I dislike hurting people (even the ones that hurt or bully me I feel bad when beating their ass) but too often people don't get it or can't get it until they fear getting whooped. Sorry0