I just want to start by saying I hate dating! I am clueless and forever reason just cannot seem to get it right.
So here is the situation,
I work with this girl and have known her for a few months. We have always flirted and got along well and I finally asked her to hang out. We were originally supposed to go out to dinner but instead I made dinner for her and we watched Netflix, which was her idea.
We play wrestled, she wrapped her legs around me when we hugged, we made out, cuddled and when it started to get a little heavy she said, "slow down." I just laughed and started kissing her really slow and said, "is this slow enough for you?" We both laughed but after that I made sure not to try and push things further. We just laid on my bed and cuddled up watching a movie in my room.
Afterwards I walked her to her car, we kissed and she leaves. She texts me about an hour later and said, "thanks for having me over today for lunch it was good ;P" I just replied, "you're welcome. I'm glad that you came over, I enjoyed your company. :)" then she says, "I think you enjoyed it a little too much ;)"
Right away that set up a red flag and I teased it away. We worked together the next day and everything was fine. Then a day later I asked if she wanted to hang out Sunday and she never responded. I already chaulked this up as a loss but I'm perplexed.
How fast is moving too fast? I have read if you fail to make a move fast enough you lose the girl. Then I have read if you are too affectionate with a girl on the first date you will make her think you just want sex and lose her. Sadly, I just read the latter part after the date trying to figure out where I went wrong. Does it make a difference if we knew each other awhile before the first date?
They say rejection hurts less and less the more it happens. Can I be the first to say that's a lie? I have been rejected more times than I can count. Forget all the b/s pua crap. I just want some sound logical advice.
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I do think things moved a little fast (i. e. kissing with legs wrapped around you) she might think you have the wrong idea for her. It would have been better if you would have tried to refrain from that. Yes it doe make a difference that you knew each other. Which means she was probably a little more comfortable around you and that's why it escalated so quickly. Given, everyone knows what "watching netflix" means. You watch the first 15 minutes of the movie at most then you start making out and things move on from there. I wouldn't pursue this further though.0