I accused her of cheating. She proved me wrong. I just added up the scenario in my head and acted on it. She got defensive gave me a gokd genuine feedback. Saying g she is loyal and would never betray me. Said I didn't think you were the jealous type.
I barley get to see her because of some military training I'm going through again. I told her my ex cheated on me while I was in bootcamp and that was her slutty doing no hers and I shouldn't of put that on her.
Apologized said that she can tell me about guys friends talk to whoever she wants and said I don't care. I don't want her to think I'm a insecure and a controlling guy because that's not me. That night just got the best of me and relived some old memories.
She said she undertsands but I can't help but think she lost a bit of respect from me.
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This might be the worst advice ever, but I've been in your situation towards my guy. We are both grown-ups and I was cheated on in my last relationship with a loser. In the beginning of my relationship with my guy, we had so many problems, I was always trying to find proves of him cheating, it was so bad. I even sometimes caught myself thinking "what tha h**l am I doing". We had this huge fight one day, because of something that he did (and his explanation was a good one) - and I ended up accusing him of cheating even though it wasn't cold hard facts. In reality I just used the opportunity to accuse him, because I wanted it for so long.
Long story short, he told me that he was sick of me accusing him, and he thought that there was no mutual respect. I told him that I don't trust him (he doesn't know my ex cheated on me) and that trust was earned. Did he run off? No, he saw one of my darkest sides, but he stayed. Did that make him love me less? I don't know, time will tell. But I don't think it's fair to none of us to be in a relationship and just swoop of all the madness and craziness and just pretend that every thing is fine, when it isn't. That's fake.
You might have a wonderful girlfriend or you might have a cheating girlfriend. No one knows for sure. Fact is, that you love her, and you haven't cold hard facts of her cheating on you, and until then enjoy what you have. Think about it this way: No one has a guarantee that the spouses won't cheat in the future, there will always be a risk, you might as well get used to it, exactly like I have to get used to it.0