We were never officially in a relationship. He wanted to be in a relationship with me about 4 years ago but I rejected him, because I wasn't ready/ had family stuff going on. he was really hurt by it and even told me he was depressed. He doesn't know he full extent as to why I rejected him. We managed to get back to being friends and would see each other once in a while. A year and a half go he reached out to me and we started hanging out and hooking up randomly. I think I started to get feelings again, especially after we had slept together. He then moved away for work after that summer but told me he liked me and always has and sees a future with me. I saw him a few times since, he would try to kiss me especially when he's drunk, but would turn him down. but i did give in the last time which was 4 months ago. i tried to avoid it because I do still have feelings but its hard because he leaves and i don't know how he feels or where we stand. How can I still have feelings for him for this long.. can I really be in love with him even though we were never really real bf and gf. I'm trying to get over it
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You don't know how he feels?
he asked you out 4 years ago. he's made a habit of trying to hook up with you regularly and more recently told you that he likes you and always sees a future with you.
my question is if you like him and he likes you why do you keep rejecting him? there's got to be more to why you don't date him because your reasons don't seem to add up... not trying to shoot you down but reflect on all these events. you want to get over a guy who likes you and has asked you out and, at least from what you say here, you like him... so why the constant back and forth with him?0