My bf and I have been together for 4 years and we were entering his mom's house for dinner and he was typing in the pass code that is outside on the garage door to get into her house and it was literally just me and him and he always puts his hand over it like if I dare see it I will tell other people or sneak in one day or something. Well today I finally called him out on it since I felt upset because he was doing it all the time like didn't trust me or something and I was like babe you do realize its just me you don't have to hide anything its not like I'm going to break an entery or something. He just shrugged a bit after I said that but I don't know I was expecting a different type of response like oh silly me I keep forgetting its just you and its just a habit or something along those lines but when he just shrugged his shoulders it bothered me a bit. Like the one day he was carrying a bunch of bags into his mom's house and I asked him the combo to his mom's house so he didn't have to put everything down so I could help him out and he was like no I got it like he couldn't trust his own gf or something. I just felt a certain type of way about that like what after 4 years you can't trust that your own gf won't break into your mom's house or tell people the combo? I asked my mom's opinion and she said that this issue is a sign that he doesn't fully trust me like he should after this amount of time together and that I should calmly sit down with him and talk to him about why he doesn't fully trust me after this amount of time. She said its not just about the combination its about the principle of the fact that he obviously doesn't trust me in a certain aspect and it needs to be addressed soon since we plan on getting married eventually. Thoughts do you agree with my mom?
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I can understand why you feel frustrated, honestly it could be that. Based on how you lay things out, you don't seem like you have gone behind his back (cheating on him, lied, etc.). One explanation could be him having a controlling mom (believe me I knew someone who was in his forties and he was still being controlled by his mom) and he is afraid she won't like him giving you the code. I don't know if maybe he is OCD or paranoid about those kinds of things, and he doesn't know how to express himself. I would definitely have a talk to see what's going on.0