I ended it because he couldn't commit at the moment and said I was "stressing him out" and putting too much pressure on it. The only reason I was doing that was because last time things ended badly because of commitment issues (which made sense, he had literally just gotten out of an extremely long relationship with the only girl he's ever dated/loved) and when we started seeing each other this time everything was great and he seemed to have changed in the less emphasis he put on sex, more emphasis on me and my life, my family, my friends, and so much support (he came to events that were important to me, even when he was busy). if i needed him, he was there. but once he felt the pressure, he got upset. he tried to explain to me that setting things in stone rift now just can't happen for him, but he really likes me and cares for me. I can tell that he cares, a lot, but I still ended things because I was a nervous wreck all the time and I realize now that mostly had to do with outside reasons (it was a stressful time in my life a month or two ago). he didn't want me to act like we would never talk again, but I was angry at him for being so closed off. I don't know if I've given him time now (I've blocked him on my phone and not said anything for like 2 months) to maybe think about this, and for me to think too about it. I feel like we really like each other and this should work, but his hang ups make me insecure and it seems hard for him to re-assure me even though he tries to listen when I talk about it and says that he is trying. Should I try seeing him again? I miss him so much sometimes it's painful.
- you shouldn't try again, he doesn't like youVote A
- you should try seeing him again, he really likes youVote B
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he obviously cares about you and at the level he's at especially caring for you so much, there will be that little sentimental link in him that connects with you, similar in ways to how you will always love your parents even if at some point you hate their guts out.
People really need to communicate more, just meet with him and explain everything, your actions and reasons and how you feel about what is going on. People tend to over-think in relationships and get the wrong idea, only talking will make things better1