Im desperate for answers from both girls and guys. Im actually almost 14 years old and I have a crush on this girl ( I have know her since we met in school ( kindergarten) and I texted her and she asked who this was and how'd I get her number. I told her that I would only tell her who I was if she promised to not tell anyone about the conversation. She said ok and I straight up out of nowhere sent a message saying that I like her and asking her If she liked me. (I don't think I could have helped myself because I really wanted to tell her how I felt about her) but she replied no. She said that her phone was dying and that she had to go. But I think she just wanted to end the conversation. I asked her if we could still be friends, she said that we could. I'm worried that she'll never talk to me again. Please help me!!!
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Are you satisfied with just being friends, as you said? Or do you really have to have her like you back and be your girlfriend?
If it's the latter, it's impossible. It's a tremendous turnoff for girls (or whoever is on the receiving end of an infatuation). If we don't like someone, it's extremely creepy for that person to keep trying to talk to you and ask you to be your best friend. Even for guys. I was on the receiving end of an extremely needy guy with no friends, and it was very weird because he kept trying to talk to me as if I was his best bud or something.
If you want her to talk to you again, cut the "do you like me" talk. Instead, try to engage her attention by finding out what she likes, and talking about it. And also sharing what you like to do and hopefully she'd find it interesting too. If both of you find each other interesting conversational partners, congrats, you may think about the next step.
If not, that's as far as you two can go. Just mere acquaintances. If you find yourself having a difficult time even just speaking to her as friends, your interest will surely fizzle out on its own too.1