Tonight was another failure. My date, who I thought was interested in me, ended up spending most of the time flirting with the waiter and acting less attracted to me as the date went on. I tried talking about what her favorite concerts were, best childhood memories, favorite party stories, etc while occasionally trying to include my own funny stories but mainly letting her talk. I also tried to be a bit flirtatious but not over the top. I ended up leaving money on the table and walking out after she started asking the waiter personal questions instead of me while smiling at him.
Then I tried messaging another girl from high school, who I thought may have been into to me, if she wanted to catch up, but now I've gotten no response for like 4 hours when my message is read and she's been posting on other people's walls. THis is just another straw in a string of hundreds of failures and rejections. No matter how much I improve, or how charming I am, or how much effort I put in, things seem to go no where.
I'm really tall like 6'10 too, which I thought was a bonus, and people consider me to be a 7/10 in terms of facial aesthetics.
I've just been getting so sad seeing couples and PDAs throughout campus, and some of my friends are even getting married. I have to lie to everyone about getting girls so i don't embarrass myself. I'm worried, at this rate, that even if I do manage to get a girlfriend, its not going to last and im going to get cheated on me. Maybe if I knew what I was doing wrong I could make noticeable progress but I have no way of getting feedback. And girls just stop talking to me. I don't know how i'll manage life without any romance--its been so long since i've had any intimate contact with women and it doesn't seem like ill ever get kids or a wife; im not sure how long I can deal with such constant and relentless rejection, so how do you guys deal with it? Giving up seems somewhat appealing.
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Failure is just another opportunity to try again, so dont give up on woman all together. Thats why people go on dates and spend time together going different places, doing various things together, so you can see what that person is really like. It helps you decide if they are right for you or not. What you have to remember is dates which seem a failure, aren't bringing what you do want, but they are teaching you what you dont want, therefore bringing you closer to finding someone who is right for you. Each date which is a disaster gives you more confidence and wisdom to find someone special.0