There's this guy I've been seeing for a month now- he is absolutely into me, I'm not sure if it's absolutely genuine or if he's just very needy, but I don't doubt his devotion to me. I've always been one to question and not really trust men, but he is truly into me. I was really for it in the beginning, but I can't help but not feel the very same way anymore. I'm 24, he's 26. I've tried calling it off twice already, but can't bear hurting him, which I have, he's almost gotten teary-eyed. He is a great guy, but I've been unintentionally thinking about the guy I dumped for him, and i feel like I'm mentally cheating on him, but can't help thinking about the first guy. I don't know why. This guy's a sweetheart, but I don't think I could see myself with him in the future, but can't bear hurting him. I talked to him and told him that I don't want to be exclusive, we are moving way too fast for just one month, and that we should just get to know each other. What is wrong with me? Is it terrible of me to be thinking about the guy I was talking to before him? I do like this guy, but I don't think I'm on the same emotional page that he is on and I don't know what to do.
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You do not like him that way and that is ok. If you call it off, yes it is going to hurt him a bit. That is part of the ritual. We all take that risk. Your part is to make it less hurtful... that means just tell him you are not interested this way, and you guys need to break it off. Yes it will hurt, but at least he knows. Look at most of the questions on GAG where people are like "I don't know what they meant" or "When will i hear from them again." that is more painful than being honest.
So just be honest... I am sorry.0