Was snooping and found my boyfriend's marijuana stash. He promised he would not keep weed in our (my lease) apt. I snooped, he lied.. Now what?

Dating for 6 years. Told him at the beginning that weed was a deal-breaker. He said it wasn't a big deal and he'd stop. 3 years ago he smoked at a party we were both at and lied at first the confessed after. We've had multiple talks about it over the years and he doesn't see anything wrong with it. I had a really bad experience with an ex and don't want my boyfriend doing it around me. We agreed he wouldn't do it around me, tell me when he smoked and not keep weed/synthetics in our apt. I was snooping for a ring a few months ago in his sock drawer and found synthetic. Ignored it and just had a conversation reiterating no weed in apt. He said none was there. Few weeks later it was gone. I assumed he threw it out. Now I was looking for a lotion of his to buy more and found a mini pipe and at least 10 containers of marijuana/synthetics. What do I do? I broke the trust by snooping (i had already found the lotion) but he was lying.. I've always told him the biggest concern with pot was keeping secrets, and that's what he did.. He knows this is a huge issue for me. But he lied, but I snooped too which is bad... What now? How do I address this?


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What Guys Said 4

  • Why is it such a big deal?

    Do you drink? Because if so you should get off your high horse. What right do you have to try and control his relatively harmless habits when you probably are drinking and taking xanax?

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    • It's not about the weed, it's about the lying.. And I've never tried xanax... Sorry to disappoint :)

    • why did you even ask? You shouldn't drink if you expect him not to smoke. Drinking is way worse. I don't blame him for lying, he was just trying to appease you.

    • I get the correlation between smoking weed and drinking, in fact you could argue drinking is more harmful. But the question is whether or not it's okay to lie to the person you're with about an issue they feel strongly about? You could liken it to kissing another person drunkenly and not telling your SO bc you don't want to hurt them.

  • Give me his number, he sounds fun.

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  • old habits die hard..

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  • Smoke a blunt and mellow out.

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  • "Told him at the beginning that weed was a deal-breaker."

    I think you have your answer.

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