Guys, do you prefer lightskin or darkskin black girls?

[Anonymous]

I am a brownskinned Black girl and feel that I would have an easier time dating if I were lighter in complexion. I notice that even white guys tend to slightly prefer lightskinned Black women if they are available. I just want to know what shade do you prefer when dating black women?

Updates

+1 y

I guess I received my answer. Most men do not prefer darkskinned black women, they'd all rather be in relationships or married to lightskinned women. I'll never be as sexy as beautiful nor have as much worth as fairskinned women. I'm something that most men settle for if I have "nice features" or if I'm not next to a lightskinned women cause they will pass me over. I have no idea what I even exist why aren't women like me extinct? Maybe the purpose of my existance is to just be a breeder?

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+1 y

Ok, I had a chance to calm down because I was so moody and irritated today. I had to take a day off from work so I could calm down.
It's just that I suffer from self esteem and confidence issues stemming from feeling rejected by men because of my skin tone. Sometimes at work when I see men approaching lightskin, mixed and white women more often to chat with I'd get so upset that I can't even concentrate. It triggers feelings of inadequacy and rejection. It makes me so angry & I feel worthless

[PhotoChick87]

Well people consider me brown skin, dark skin. I can care less. But I consider my dark skin because majority of my body is dark. Either way I love my skin and at the end of the day that's all that matters. I've read the comments and like the guys said they don't really have a preference. They just like certain features or personality. Also guys are attracted to girls with confidence, and maybe the guys that you come in contact with sense it too. Maybe that's why the guys at your job are not responding to you as the other women. It saddens me how you view yourself cuz I know you are a pretty girl. This is serious if you had to take a day off of work. I think this is something you should speak to an psychologist about and not gag.

[PhotoChick87]

Excuse me I meant to say guys must sense you have low self-esteem that's why their not responding to you as they do the women at your job.

[CHARismatic110]

I hate that there is even this debate between lightskin and darkskin. You shouldn't feel any less beautiful because you have darker skin! I know plenty of guys who prefer girls with a richer skin color. By why does that even matter? Everyone has a preference. You shouldn't be upset and feeling like you don't matter because darkskin didn't win the majority vote. You'll never make it far with that mentality. Your skin color does not define who you are!

[realerthanreal]

Kenya Moore used to shit on most light skinned chicks in her prime. She still does, but I hate that she's on that show. She's so beautiful.
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[DontDropIt]

Kenya IS fucking beautiful! omg

[Watermelonoma]

why is it that all these types of questions on GaG asked by black girls are so often looking for the approval of white men, and when you don't get it its like the worst thing in the world? Your update is silly honestly. You see a few comments from mostly white guys and now all of a sudden your life is ending. Good grief...

If you are a woman, the most important part of you when it comes to attracting men is your face, then its your body shape. Make sure you have as clean a face as possible, and as good a body as possible. Right now, you are just over dramatizing your problems

[Asker]

Black guys have approval that you are attractive. You hear women of all races expressing how gorgeous black men are. Your looks have been affirmed. What is so bad with me wanting the same thing? I want to be validated as welll

[Watermelonoma]

again, you're over dramatizing. Black people in general have a harder time dating (not just black women) according to data collected by various dating websites. If you live as a victim of circumstance your whole life, you will likely die a victim too, never getting what you want. You have to break out of that mindset and actually realize that there are hundreds of men out there of every race (not just white), who would date a black girl

[Suspected]

AMEN!

[SaltandVinegar]

This is the skin tone I like on black girls:
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[TrackisLife]

Asker, this is a dark skin girl. There is a difference between dark and brown.

[His_Baby]

She doesn't look dark to me

[PhotoChick87]

She has beautiful dark skin

[Idkdkdieynsksjwsn]

@His_Baby Then ur colorblind.

[cavmanier]

Please don't think those things in your update. Lots of men like several to all shades of skin color. Maybe statistically more prefer light skin but you can still find a man that will love you and find you sexy. Also there are less dark skinned women in the world so there will be a demand for some men with that preference. You're self worth doesn't have to come exclusively from your appearance either. You're so much more than that.

[Asker]

There are actually more darkskinned women in this world but for some reason very few men prefer us or consider us an ideal mate.

Also how am I supposed to find a man to love me if the vast majority do not prefer my skin tone? I dont get it.

[cavmanier]

You think there's more dark skinned women in the world? I meant especially if you combine all white people, Asians and everyone else I would think dark skin would be less common.

Even if it's not their preference, lots of men will not significantly care about your skin color if they love you. You don't have to be a man's preference is that regard in order in order for a possibility of love happening.

[Asker]

Again, I'm being told to settle. Why can't I get the same gratification of knowing I am a man's preference that other races of women have? I dont want that "if he loves you your skin color dont matter" bull. I want to know what it feels like to be a man's first pick or ideal choice.

[TrackisLife]

Asker, you need to see reality. Most light skin girls are given the hit and run. Not many are given serious relationships. They're abused in rap and degraded in music videos. Is that really what you want to be?

[cavmanier]

How are you settling? You mean they are often settling on your skiing color? Look at it this way: few to none of us are perfect. We are all kind of settling in some regards. That doesn't mean you can't be loved by a man.

Plus you can have features that will be a man's preference that many lighter skinned women will not have.

[itsallover]

Why do you think you'd have an easier time if you were lighter? That's a horrible mentality to have. Asking that sort of question on here will only get you hurt. Love your skin, and you'll find a guy who loves it just as much or even more than you do. They're the ones that are worth it, and you'll find him.

[Asker]

As you can see, the vast majority of the guys have all said they find lighter skiin more appealing. So if I were lighter, I'd have a much easier time dating white and black men. I want my skin tone to be celebrated by most men not just one who happens to settle for me.

[itsallover]

You clearly lack confidence. Why do you think a man should have to settle for you? I hate to say it but most of the men saying that they prefer lighter skin tones are saying this because that is the desirable image portrayed by the media. A truly great man will not see your skin tone but your character. You seem to be disregarding some of the men saying that skin tone doesn't even matter to them. And that's how it should be in my opinion.

I'm your skin tone and I've had attention from guys, but the difference is that I'm comfortable and confident with my skin and I don't let it determine my dating prospects.

[Asker]

I'm looking for at least half of the guys to say they prefer darkskin, not the skin tone doesn't matter BS. That isn't good enough for me. Lightskin women get to hear all the time that their color is preferred, why can I? Why am I always excluded and made to feel less desirable?

[itsallover]

Unfortunately you can't change what a guy prefers. You come across as extremely bitter. Why do you care what most guys like?

[Asker]

Yes, I'm extremely bitter because most men do not prefer me. I'm something that they settle for but I'm supposed to be content with that

[itsallover]

I'll just let you wallow in your own self pity then. You're not helping yourself by thinking in this way. Your skin tone is not be all and end all of your being. That's all I have to say.

[AleDeEurope]

It's more about the facial features actually, just like another guy said, but to be honest, I tend to be more attracted to lightskin blacks, but still, if a darkskin has facial features that I like, I still gonna find her attractive, regardless of her skin color.

[Asker]

AleDeEurope, why is my skin tone second best to you? Why don't you prefer darkskin?

[AleDeEurope]

I honestly can't tell you why. It's not that I don't like darkskins, I've seen plenty of dark women that are really attractive, but in the end, I find lighter skin blacks more attractive.
Maybe lightskins have facial features that are more attractive to me, and darkskins don't, but I really can't tell you why, I haven't stopped and thought about it. I just know that it's all about the facial features.

[Asker]

So, what makes my skin tone and facial features less attractive than lightskin Black people?

I just want to know why I am every man's trash

[AleDeEurope]

No no no, I didn't mean you're not attractive, sorry if it came out that way :( I said that facial features are what actually matters, and I haven't seen your face, so I can't actually tell, but if I like your face, I don't care how dark you are, I will still find you attractive. Color matters too little to me.
Have a pretty face, and I will think you're attractive, no matter what color you are.

Oh, and you're not any man's trash, don't think like that :)

[Asker]

"No no no, I didn't mean you're not attractive, sorry if it came out that way :( I said that facial features are what actually matters, and I haven't seen your face, so I can't actually tell, but if I like your face, I don't care how dark you are, I will still find you attractive. Color matters too little to me.
Have a pretty face, and I will think you're attractive, no matter what color you are.

Oh, and you're not any man's trash, don't think like that"

But you did say that you find the skin tone and features of lightskin blacks more attractive. Therefore, you don't think I measure up or that I'm as beautiful as fairskinned women. I want to know why? Why don't most men celebrate my beauty and coloring? Why can't i be the preferred choice for men? Its frustrating to read this. Every man so far has said he will settle for darkskin. It's like Im not good enough or some kind of stand in

[Asker]

"You shouldn't be worried with people who don't make you a priority and worry about the guys that will. I completely understand where you're coming from I do see black women being bashed and wrongfully so. That being said just ignore them and keep looking for the guy who finds you as his ideal."

I should worry about it because I want to feel appreciated like lighterskinned women. I want to know that I have as many options but clearly I dont cause Im not the preferred color. I dont think I'll ever find a guy who thinks my color is ideal. Most men have pretty much let me know that I am always going to be last pick. not one guy has said he preferred darkskin so far

[AleDeEurope]

No, I said I tend to be more attracted to lightskin women, MAYBE because they tend to have facial features that I consider attractive. I never said all lightskin blacks have facial features I like. I also didn't say that I don't like darkskin facial features.
Don't take my comment like an insult, or that I'm insinuating all darkskin blacks aren't attractive, it's not what I'm saying. Color doesn't matter, believe me, what matters is the facial features, and a lightskin and a darkskin can both have the same facial features, this doesn't have anything to do with their color.

[zorro8888]

I like all kinds of skin tones... so it wouldn't matter to me as much... Personality will always change my view on women.
My problem mainly lies in your update if that's how quickly you can start thinking about these problems... I can't handle people with low self esteem.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

No offense but only unattractive girls whine about their skin tone. I know lots of hot dark skinned girls that get plenty attention from guys and I know plenty guys who say they prefer chocolate over redbones.

If you have a cute face and a nice body why do you feel like skin color holds you back?

[Asker]

Even if I was ugly, so what? am i less deserving of love and romance?

There are plenty of ugly lightskinned women who have their pick of men. Why can't the same be said for an ugly to average dark woman?

[RestlessYouth_]

ALL WOMEN: Love your fucking self and others will love you! Please stop trying to seek validation from others.

[Cryostatic]

I feel like most of the girls I've been attracted to have fallen into a pretty wide range of light to dark skin.

In general, I tend to be attracted to features more than skin color.

[Asker]

Not one man has said he preferred darkskin so far. Why is that? Why am I the least preferred color?

[TrackisLife]

Nobody had to prefer a skin tone, this man just said skin tone is not his biggest factor, why are you asking?

[Asker]

there are a lot of men who prefer lightskin and the small minority don't have a preference. Not one man can say "I prefer darkskin". They always cop out and say they dont have a preference

[TrackisLife]

Or maybe that's how they feel. YOU'RE NOT EVEN DARK SKIN!

[Asker]

brownskin is darkskin. it's no where near light

[Anonymous]

Well this is America..
Eurocentric beauty is what most guys like now. Even minorities are chasing after us. But you know what they say the darker the berry the sweeter the juice.

And I found this

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There all beautiful even white guys can't deny it

[Opinion Owner]

Not to mention they have some amazing lips

[Asker]

Lauren London is biracial and lightskinned. The only dark girl is Kelly Rowland. None of them have broad features like me. I have features like Lupita Nyongo

[CHARismatic110]

I agree that they are all beautiful, but I don't feel like Kelly is darkskin.

[PhotoChick87]

Lupita Nyongo has gorgeous skin. I always hear many people say how gorgeous she is both white and black. As a matter of fact she's on cover girl and on plenty of magazines. It's all about being confident and having a great personality.

[TrackisLife]

Dark skin girls can beautiful too. Some of the prettiest girls I know are dark skin girls and they are darker than you. Yes, a lot of guys like light skin girls with fat asses, but it really depends on who the girl is not particularly her skin tone.

[Asker]

Do you think in the future dark women will be bred out since most men dont prefer us?

[TrackisLife]

No, where are you getting your information from?

[Asker]

Based on the responses from men in this thread and in general... most men typically pick lightskinned women as mates. I see it everyday.

[TrackisLife]

This is 14 guys out of the millions of men in the world... Plus, majority of these guys told your skin tone doesn't matter as much cause it is features and personality too. The reason light skin girls seem to be preferred is also cause they are flaunted in music videos and magazines making them seem like the ideal skin tone. To against your point, where do you think these light skin woman came from? They came from a dark skin person and a white person. There were not many light skins until white men started having sex with black woman or black men having sex with white woman. So, remember that, people are attracted to dark skin woman.

[Asker]

Yes, there were white men who had sex with darkskin black women but it doesn't change the reality that most men prefer lightskin. They were attracted but not AS attracted to lightskin which bothers me. It's something that really bothers me and cuts deep into my soul

[TrackisLife]

You can't change the world, you need to stop bitching about it and move on. Oh well, some men won't like you. You probly missed out on many men who will like you. You can't change your skin either so stopping being jealous and envious. Others on here tried to make your feel better, but you won't even listen. Maybe its your personality that's keeping you from attracting the men you want.

[Asker]

I'm upset because I feel less as a woman. I'm tired of seeing men in the media, online and real life constantly preferring and choosing lightskinned women as partners. I always feel inadequate and for once in my life would like to know what it feels like to have my beauty affirmed. To be apart of the chosen class of women that most men find ideal.

[TrackisLife]

Being upset never changes anything, you have to do actions. You can't change who you are and there's no reason to put yourself down. Nobody else has told you these things to put you down, but you tell yourself this and because of this you feel less of a woman. I feel sometimes light skin guys have it easy cause all the girls are attracted to them, but I don't sit around bitching about it.

[Asker]

Society tells me i'm not as beautiful or worthy as lightskinned women. everytime I read Facebook, Twitter, or on any social media site where men constantly praise light or white women I am being told that I am not as beautiful and just all around inferior as a woman.

[TrackisLife]

Who gives a flying fuck? Stop worrying about everything people say. People have talked about our whole race, that doesn't mean I let what they say get to me. by the way, you're not even dark skin you said you are brown skin. Are you this: thyblackman.com/.../darkskinafricanbeauty.jpg or this: mo-am.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/nia_long.jpg

[Asker]

Brown skin is not a preferred skin tone. Very few men even chose that skin tone as their ideal preference. I am Oprah Winfrey's skin tone

[TrackisLife]

You just wasted my time completely. You're not even dark skin, why are your associating as dark skin then. Brown skin is not even very far from light skin.

[TrackisLife]

And who tf are you to say that? First, not all men have ideal skin tones. Many guys have already tried to tell you that, but you won't listen. Different men like different woman, deal with it.

[itsallover]

@TrackisLife I wouldn't bother anymore, she's clearly not prepared to listen to the help and advice people are giving her.

[Asker]

Darkskin is brownskin. What the heck are you talking about? Since when is Oprah Winfrey and Kelly Rowland not darkskin? Do you see black men preferring brown women NO. did hardly of the men in here admit to preferring brown women? NO. they will say color doesn't matter before expressing a preference for brown or dark women

[TrackisLife]

Dark skin is not brown skin... I'm brown skin. There's a difference. These are examples of beautiful DARK SKIN girls: i2.listal.com/.../600full-diamond-jackson.jpg and www.spyghana.com/.../wpid-Dark-Girl.jpg . I know girls that are even darker than that (in person) and they are very beautiful and have pretty eyes. How can you prove black men don't prefer their own race? Just stop...

[TrackisLife]

@itsallover you're probly right, I guess its all over now. XD

[Asker]

You must live beneath a rock if you dont notice most black men who express their preference for lightskin or white girls. if given the opportunity most would not date a darkskinned girl. Do you see the type of women most black male entertainers have? they are usually light in complexion, not even brownskin

[TrackisLife]

I would date a darkskin girl cause race doesn't matter to me. That first picture I showed you, she is a very hot dark skin girl. Do you know those women aren't shit to those men? They are just bitches to them. There are plenty of videos with brown skin girls too, plenty. Cause brown skin isn't too far from light skin. Some of the hottest women are brown skin.

[Anonymous]

Believe me light skinned girls don't have it good all of the time. I'm lightskinned and I have nice hair and I'm tired of people assuming I'm mixed because of how dark my dad is. You get pale in the winter and sun burned in the summer. And I have never seen a white guy with a dark skinned black woman.

[RationalMale]

"even white guys prefer lighter skin"

Um, obviously? We white guys are used to white girls. So we're obviously going to find lighter skin--closer to white--more attractive.

Why don't you just date black guys?

[Asker]

did you read my other posts? even black guys who are used to black girls prefer lightskin. there were two black guys who said they find lighter skin more desirable. so if black guys prefer lightskin, why can't white guys prefer darkskin?

[Asker]

I dont date black guys cause they all prefer lightskin, mixed race or white girls now. Why would I date a black guy and produce a child that is going to suffer like I am and not be able to marry?

[RationalMale]

Because people aren't magnets. There's no "- pole attracts + pole so therefore + pole must attract - pole" law when it comes to inter racial dating. What black guys prefer doesn't impact what white guys prefer.

[RationalMale]

Oh well.

[Proboy421]

Honestly depends for me. But regardless of ethnicity or race, I don't like girls who play games and act like a dog (you get my drift).

[Anonymous]

I think really dark skin can be very sexy! It's the same as with dark hair... it looks kind of mysterious, sophisticated and alluring.

[Dionysos]

I don't care about the color as long as it's wrapped around a healthy happy smart pretty woman that likes me.

[Izzex3]

Some do, some don't.
I know a lot of guys that do care though..
My black and hispanic friends are the ones who usually don't care as long as she's hot.

[Izzex3]

Also, I'm not "lightskinned" and I have no problem getting men.

[chocolatedragon]

I care a million times more about boobs and booty. Skin tone doesn't matter to me, curves dp :p

[Asker]

Men will avoid saying they prefer darkskin, some will claim they care more about boobs, butts, hips, but never that you prefer darkskin.

[chocolatedragon]

I've been with white to dark chocolate girls. I don't have a preference for skin tone.

[Asker]

Again, with this I don't have a preference crap. I want to date a guy who strongly prefers and idolizes my skin tone, not someone who doesn't have a preference or dont care.

[chocolatedragon]

There are chocolate chasers out there lol.
And by brownskin, do you mean like kerry Washington?

[Asker]

Kerry Washington is lightskinned and has narrow features. When I say brown or dark I mean Oprah Winfrey's or Kelly Rowland color. See, women like me are not even thought of when you think of dark. That's the sad part

[chocolatedragon]

Oprah is definitely pretty and Kelly is lovely.
You shouldn't be having much problema dating if that's you're skin tone. Lupita gets all white boys lol and she's darker than both people you mentioned.

[kheserthorpe]

It's really not a factor.

Facial features and build matter. And hair.

[Asker]

You have to pick. What type of facial features and skin tone you like on black girls?

[Asker]

"No, I said I tend to be more attracted to lightskin women, MAYBE because they tend to have facial features that I consider attractive. I never said all lightskin blacks have facial features I like. I also didn't say that I don't like darkskin facial features.
Don't take my comment like an insult, or that I'm insinuating all darkskin blacks aren't attractive, it's not what I'm saying. Color doesn't matter, believe me, what matters is the facial features, and a lightskin and a darkskin can both have the same facial features, this doesn't have anything to do with their color. "

But you initially said you preferred lightskin black women due to their coloring and features now you are back tracking and saying color doesn't matter. I wanted to know why you don't prefer dark women, what makes our skin tone less appealing? I just find it frustrating that by default I am what most men would settle for and not be ideal. But I guess I should be content with being 2nd best

[hoffery]

it has to be 57% light 43% dark. with a 3% tolerance... other then that id be out faster then if you had the chicken pox

[Findesemana]

they're pretty kinds of both colours..

and why care what some Web strangers think? :)

[Asker]

Because most men in real life feel this way and it makes me really upset and angry. I feel ignored, irrelevant, undesirable and unworthy because my skin is not light. And any man who dates me I wonder if he is settling for me cause he couldn't get a lightskinned woman

[Findesemana]

just saying their views shouldn't be important..

[Asker]

It is important. If my skin tone is not preferred, how am I going to date, marry? All women want to feel appreciated. I want to hear men say they prefer darkskin as much as i hear them say they like lightskin

[Findesemana]

there is more to life than dating... though people have given you time/advice and you dismiss it..

do you go after white men only? do you live in white country? if so, then you have a large part of your answer... and it's not racism, just that if white beauty/fair skin is the norm, then darker skin is not as desired..

[Asker]

It's like this everywhere. Even black men prefer lightskin. I'm left with nothing

[Asker]

Besides why would i want to date a black man and have children who are going to be my color and darker only for them to suffer. I dont want to have a dark daughter who is going to be reminded that she is not the ideal nor as beautiful as light women

[Findesemana]

so mope, and not listen to any advice and berate all others' opinions on this thread...

does all that solve your problem?

[Findesemana]

by the way, i am a black man, and i don't oppose dating a dark-skinned woman... skin colour for me is not the main factor..

[Asker]

what solution was I given? I was pretty much told in so many ways that men settle for women like me. I am never their preferred choice.

[meatballs21]

Dark... like Afro-Caribbean.

[TrackisLife]

Asker, here goes another guy preferring dark (which you're not), but you'll probly ignore this and continue ranting.

[Asker]

it's nice to read men say they prefer dark women. i appreciate it

[meatballs21]

Asker, I dream of someday going back to Barbados and seeing the beautiful willowy island girls again.

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(please don't say she's not dark enough for you... it's hard enough finding pictures of Bajan women who aren't Rihanna)