How to Let a Guy Down Easy?

[Anonymous]

Okay so there's this guy that asked me out recently and I'm not attracted to him mentally or physically. When he asked my out I tried to let him down easy by telling him no, I do not have a boyfriend, but I have someone I'm talking to. He still didn't take the hint! He kept following me around and hugging me whenever he saw me around campus. If I tried to maneuver around his hugs, he'd be like "What? You don't want to give me a hug?" I don't want to be mean and say "No, I really don't" But I'm honestly tired of him. It's burden having to avoid him all over campus. I haven't seen him at all outside of school, but what do I do if he continues that behavior? How do I let him down easy?

[Bluemax]

Well, I think that trying to find a way to let a person down easy is like searching for El Dorado or the Northwest Passage. They don't exist, and neither does letting a person down easy.

Since there is no painless way to go about it, I believe quickly and directly is the way to go. You tell him, "I'm sorry, but I don't want to go out with you." If he asks why, you tell him you're not attracted to him. If you fear he'll lash out, do it in a public place or in the company of friends. Next time he attempts to hug you, you tell him you don't want to hug him.

[Jbunch]

I respect you trying to let him down easy, but if a guy can't take a hint you can't really beat around the bush about it.

I would just tell him you don't view him as anymore than a friend. He'll just think he got friendzoned and won't take it too far to heart, I don't think.

[Asker]

That's a really good idea. But do you think it'll stop him from touching me so much? I honestly don't know him that well and it makes me uncomfortable.

[Jbunch]

oh man, I totally know what you mean.

I would think so, but you really HAVE to make sure he knows you aren't interested. Otherwise, you are either going to have to tell him to stop touching you, or you are going to have to avoid him when he tries to touch you, which will be kind of awkward so I hope he gets the idea the first time

[Asker]

Yeah I get what you mean, thanks a million!

[Jbunch]

No problem:)

[Anonymous]

You basically told him no nicely, and that you're interested in another guy and he wouldn't accept it. Then he constantly hounds you and hugs you when you don't like it, to the point you're having to go out your way to avoid him... And you're worried about his feelings? Does he give a shit about yours? No.
Guys like him need to be told harshly. You can't be nice forever with guys like him.

[Asker]

That's what all my friends say. But I'm really chickenhearted and have severe anxiety. I'd probably freak out if he lashed out.

[Opinion Owner]

I know how you're feeling, I used to be like you with guys, then one day I just snapped because of guys like him.
I'm telling you, guys like him that keep harassing, they know who to do it it. They do it to the girls who are more worried about saying things back. He wouldn't do it to a really strong headed girl who always speaks up and speaks her mind. Do not let him take advantage of the fact you're more worried about this stuff.
I swear to you, guys like him, usually, once you've told them in a certain way they are shocked and they back down. Sometimes, if they don't truly believe you fully mean it, they'll just calm down for a week or two, say sorry, but carry on again after till you tell them off again.

If your friends don't mind helping you out, maybe if they're ever with you when he starts, they can help you by saying something to him. Or maybe even just make comments around him that are kinda harsh but drive the point home.

[Asker]

Thank you so much. My friends have literally tried to curse him out multiple times, but I've stopped them. I guess I'll just have to have a friend tag along and just tell him how I really feel.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for most helpful. And yea, you should do that. It isn't fair you have to constantly watch over your shoulder because this guy doesn't know his boundaries. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

i have pretty same situation... But the differences is that i know that guy already for 6 years, lately i started to realize that i dont like him anymore... Like people change and feelings fade...
I try to ignore his messages, but i can't just suddenly ignore him after 6 years of friendship, so i have to answer, but my answers r short and sharp... and still he didn't understand

[Asker]

It's so frustrating isn't it? But the thing about this guy is I barely know him! I've been around him and seen how he is when he's around other people and I'm not into that sort of person.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ways To Let A Nice Guy Down Easy

It can be tough to let a nice guy down easy. You don't want to hurt his feelings, but you also don't want to lead him on. If you're not interested in a relationship with a nice guy, here are a few ways to let him down easy:

1. Thank him for his interest, but let him know you're not interested in a relationship right now.

2. Tell him you're not ready for a relationship, but you appreciate his interest.

3. Be honest with him and tell him that you're just not interested in him romantically.

4. Let him know that you're flattered by his interest, but you're not interested in dating him.

5. Thank him for his interest and let him know that you're just not feeling a connection.

6. Be honest with him and tell him that you don't see a future together.

7. Thank him for his time and let him know that you're moving on.

8. Let him down easy by telling him that you're not interested in a relationship right now, but you still want to be friends.

9. Be honest with him and tell him that you don't think you're compatible.

10. Thank him for his interest and let him know that you're just not ready for a relationship.

What do you say when you let a guy down?

When you need to let a guy down, there are a few key things to keep in mind:

• First, be honest with him. There is no need to string him along or lead him on. It will only end up hurting him more in the end.
• Second, be direct. Tell him straight out that you are not interested in him romantically. This will help him to move on more quickly.
• Finally, be kind. There is no need to be rude or mean. Simply let him down gently and wish him the best in his future endeavors.

How to Let a Guy Down Easy and Still Be Friends

It happens to the best of us. You meet a guy, you hit it off, but then you realize that you're not interested in him romantically. How do you let him down easy and still stay friends?

Here are a few tips:

1. Be honest.

The worst thing you can do is lead him on or give him false hope. Be upfront and honest about your feelings (or lack thereof).

2. Be kind.

There's no need to be mean or rude. Just be kind and understanding. Let him know that you still want to be friends.

3. Don't ghost him.

It's tempting to just disappear and never speak to him again, but that's not really fair. If you're not interested in him, that's one thing, but don't just ghost him. Send him a text or an email explaining your decision.

4. Give him space.

Once you've broken the news to him, give him some space. He might need time to process the information and come to terms with it. Give him a few days (or even a week) before you reach out to him again.

5. Be understanding.

He might be upset, disappointed, or even angry. He might say some hurtful things. Just try to be understanding and remember that he's going through a tough time right now.

6. Don't lead him on.

Once you've made it clear that you're not interested in him, don't lead him on. Don't flirt with him, don't give him mixed signals, and don't string him along. It's not fair to him and it will only make the situation more difficult.

7. Keep communication channels open.

Just because you're not interested in him doesn't mean you have to cut him out of your life completely. Keep communication channels open so you can still be friends.

Breaking up with someone is never easy, but it's especially difficult when you still want to be friends. Just be honest, kind, and understanding, and you should be able to get through it.

[Monty3880]

This will all depend on what your behavior is like with other guy friends, but if you don't hug any guy friend, then a little honesty. Something like:
"Hey Mike, I'm flattered you like me, but like I said the other day, I'm into someone else right now. So, if you want, let's be friends but without the hugging. It just doesn't seem right when I like someone else."

If he wants to take that as an insult or get all pissy about it, I'd say you did your best and it's his problem.

[BertMacklinFBI]

tell him he's "a really good friend" emphasis on the "good friend".

[Imtheone88]

seeing some one is not a big deal... you shouldve said your in a relationship.

[Blondiee2014]

Just say you now have a boyfriend, easy.

[writerguy220]

Just be honest with him