I really like this guy... his older than me, and I feel bad, but he's cheating on his gf with me, he told me she cheated on him first, I know he's probably lying, but would you ever date a guy/girl that cheated? If yes, what makes you think that he's/shes not gonna cheat on you too?
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If I were a girl? Nope. But that's only because I have a clue and some experience.
If I were still young, innocent, and clueless, I would make a mistake and learn from it. Some mistakes cost A LOT... But they usually come a huge round and pay back in ways you never knew existed. Wisdom, knowledge, understanding, and true confidence.
Took a long while to realise that she was 'cheating' with me on whoeverelse she was 'rebounding' with. But in hindsight, that unlucky guy wasn't so unlucky because I was stuck with a cheat in progress. And even then I still convinced myself that she wouldn't do it with me with other guys.
The problem is, she doesn't have a clue how to build trust in relationships, nor even understand what real freedom and liberty is. Maybe she still doesn't, I don't know.
Regardless, a cheater is immature, self-righteous, and selfish. They have to change on their own, and would quit the relationship if they really did change and re-start everything.
Otherwise, it's still the selfish 'me-first' rather than 'us-first', and 'i am afraid of losing things', rather than 'i am afraid of US losing things'. 'My security first', rather than 'OUR security first'. 'Every man/woman for himself/herself' rather than 'We help complement each other's weaknesses with our strengths. 'If you're weak, go die alone, I want to be with strong people', rather than 'When you're weak, i'll support you, and when I'm weak, I know you'll support me too'.
If you sincerely want advice? Then please consider the advice given to you. Don't make the same mistake as myself did and ignore the warnings of other people.1