I feel there are 3 main stages in any relationship
1) Initial attraction - this may not have been right when you met, it may have been days, months, or even years after.
2) Falling in love - after some time of dating, stronger feeling emerge. Some people fight these feelings... but eventually you accept the fact that this may be more then just a relationship... dare I say love?
3) Can't live without - the final stage is when you get to the point that you feel you cannot live without them... yes, you have accepted the fact that you want to spend the rest of your life standing beside them... for better or worse, no matter what.
So my question is simple, How long did it take for you to get to each stage? Are you not there yet? Why not?
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#1 - I looked at him for the first time and that was it. December 18, 2007.
#2 - Sometime in like 2009, I think. We weren't dating at this point. It's hard to say exactly because the feelings of infatuation and love are very close together and with my situation they just flowed together. I remember the exact moment but not the exact date. We were texting (still not dating, actually forbidden from seeing each other) and something just switched over. It's like you're in the shallow end of a pool having a delightful time and then you suddenly can't touch anymore and now you're in love.
#3 - Sometime in 2013 probably. We started dating in 2011. But you always tell yourself that yeah, you like them, you may even love them, but you'd survive/get over it if they left you, but somewhere in there I decided that nope, if ever we broke up, I'd be done. I'd live of course, and I'd be a functional member of society, but I wouldn't date again.
If I were being honest I'd tell you that I decided we were getting married about 30 seconds after seeing him in 2007. The other dates are just when said feelings were actually named and validated.6