OK, so this girl sent me a friend invite on Facebook. 25 years old, from Syria, studying medicine in Ankara, Turkey. Her name checks out - there is a student by her name attending med school there according to Google, along with two friends she has named and their corresponding facebooks which are also mentioned on the university's web site. She matches her (many) photos posted to Facebook when we do video chat. Her surroundings look like the dorm she says she's in when we do chat. She hasn't asked for money, she hasn't pried for personal information. We've been talking for three months, and she's amazing.
She sent the initial friend invite, but I've been the one to pursue regular contact between us. We like each other, a lot. She wants to meet me when she comes to America for her internship. Things have been going great, and from what I've been able to verify on my own everything seems on the level, but I've read so much about online dating scams and identity theft that I find hard to shake off.
A bit about who I am: I am a 28-year-old guy (my name here is a pseudonym) with no prior dating experience. Never kissed a woman before, much less been in a relationship, much less a long-distance one with someone from another country whom I met on the Internet. Am I being an idiot? Is there anyone out there who has done anything like this before and made it work?
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She seems genuine. But continue talking with her until about a year. Tell her you don't have much money or something and if she stops writing, then well, you know.
Remember, scammers' goal are usually either for visa or for money. Or both.
My friend was recently also scammed for money by an American guy. I've already warned her repeatedly to be careful since I saw how happy and excited she was mentioning him as her boyfriend. I've even heard them talk on the phone, and they both are not young. Her kids are 16 and 19. But in the end, he gave her false hopes of coming over to Germany, starting a new business together and then close to the date he said that he got scammed by his friend who was supposed to help him with the visa and stuff, and now he has no money left so would she please send him some money. She did, and I immediately told her to just forget any hope about her getting either the money or the promise of him. He's a scammer and she, a lonely divorced woman in her 50s hoping to find a new love, had been his victim. Shit.
Anyway, back to you. Talk a lot longer before you meet, and even then, never suggest that you have money. And once she mentions money or bringing her to the states, run like satan is chasing you.0
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