So I went on a date with a younger, but very smart and very mature girl tonight. She's in her mid 20s and a physician's assistant. I'm in my early 30s and a small business owner.
The date went alright, but she seemed a little tired. I did get her to smile a few times but she didn't react to my humor as much as I hoped for. She did talk to me a lot though.
Anyway the bill came around (it was around $70... it was a pretty nice restaurant) and by instinct I grabbed the bill. She absolutely insisted on paying her half... and I joke around "you can get the next date... you see I'm trying to rope you in for a 2nd go around". She laughed... but she was a little stiff.
Afterwards I walked her out to her car and gave her a hug (twice). She said she had a good time but had to get up early tomorrow.
I think I'm going to wait 4-5 days to call her for a 2nd get together. She might not be interested... but maybe she was just tired. But that is most vehemently I have ever seen a girl want to pay her half. She is certainly a over achiever... maybe a feminist... so maybe that plays into it. However is this a sign she is just not interested and wants to pay her half so she doesn't come off as a freeloader? I didn't make any sexual innuendos towards her.
She was very cute (we met on tinder) and I'm impressed with her. Am I just having wishful thinking?
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I definitely think it's because you said you were moving. She was probably interested up until you told her that. She might have even been kinda pissed/disappointed which is why she insisted on paying for herself. Just to make a point that she definitely didn't consider it a date after that. I mean think of it from her perspective. She goes on a date with someone who she thinks she might actually have a potential future with. She's excited. She's into it. Then all of a sudden he says he's leaving in a week? I mean how would you feel? Used, right? And pissed! Because how serious can a guy who plans on moving far away from her even be? So yeah, she got mad, but played it cool. If you really are into her though, I think you should definitely contact her and explain your situation. She might be skeptical, but just convince her to give you another chance! And none of this waiting 3 or 4 days bullshit. Whoever the hell came up with that rule is a fucking moron. If you want to talk to her, then do it. And if she's still not interested, then at least you tried right?0