We used to text throughout the day non-stop and talk at least 3 times per week over the phone (we're more than 3000km apart). Lately I feel like he has been distancing himself from me. If I bring that up, he always says he is sorry and that he is just crazy busy with work. To his defense, he is a dr and runs two practices and lately has had staffing issues. Nevertheless, I feel like I've been initiating all contact lately and it makes me feel like I'm being needy. I do like him a lot and want this to turn into something more serious, but do not want to chase after someone who is not ready for a relationship or wants to put in time and effort into one (just got out of a 10yr relationship that was exactly that!). How do I either have a convo with him about this or go about the entire situation? He is also 10yrs older, got out of a short marriage over 1 1/2 ago (she cheated) and has no kids. My story is fairly similar... broke off engagement after my fiance had a 6month affair with a co-worker. Both of us are fearful of getting hurt again and I feel this also comes into play here. Any comments/suggestions/opinions welcome!!! Thank you.
2months long-distance dating - He's become distant & blames it on his highpressure job. Do I just stop initiating contact and let him take a lead?
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It might actually be work but you never really know. I knew a guy that griped about the time difference after we had one minor dissagreement but my friend with a whole day and four hour time difference can make time to talk and he does way more in a day than him. I think you should stop talking for a while and if he really cares he'll initiate contact. If he doesn't, wait like a month and if he still has the same bullshit excuse or wants in some type of emergency just tell him peace.1
Talk to him about it, maybe he's really really busy. Unless and until you talk to him, you won't be able to understand the problem. Misunderstandings usually ends relationship, so better talk to him about it.0
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