I had no problems getting dates during my late teens and early 20s, and was also involved in 2 serious relationships. But I have stayed single for almost 5 years now and didn't even attempt to date, because I focused on completing my graduation (I was a drop out) and start off with a decent career.
Now I'm 28, and I feel this urge to get back into the dating scene. But this time it is totally different because I only want to focus on building a long term, committed relationship instead of short-term dating for fun.
The problem is, I have become kinda 'rusty' during the past few years regarding my interaction with women, and don't know how to go about it. I have no idea where I could even meet women I'd be interested in, because I don't go to nightclubs (since I'm a teetotaler). The way i see it, most people get dates in nightclubs but that isn't possible for me.
I'm not interested in dating co-workers and risk jeopardizing my job. Dating sites are an option, but almost everyone tells me that they're an utter waste for men due to the skewed male-female ratio on such sites (lot more men than women).
Most of my friends are male. And I really wouldn't want to get romantic with my female friends because I'm quite sure they would have buried me deep in the friendzone already, and I too don't feel anything for them apart from friendship.
So I don't really know WHERE I can find single women, because the very few women I did comes across and was interested in, were either married or taken. Besides, I wouldn't want to hit on random women in public places and creep them out. And I don't really have the type of friends or acquaintances who could set up a blind date for me.
P. S. I don't reside in the US, UK or Australia (most members on this site are from these countries), so please try to provide generic solutions instead of country-specific ones.
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Yeah I agree with @SamiJane on everything she said about online dating. I think it probably is your best bet. You could try volunteering for something to meet women or possibly one of your guy friend's girlfriends know someone for you? I don't think nightclubs are great places to get dates actually, like at all. Bars might be a bit better and possibly a bit more casual. Nightclubs are way more "hook-upy".
Oh, and I think if it happens naturally enough or smoothly enough you could ask for a stranger's number. Like if you guys start chatting a bit over something (spilled coffee or whatever) and it goes well I don't see anything creepy about asking, as long as you do it in a friendly, open way. This photo (link below) from the Humans of NY blog is what I thought of when I read what you wrote about "I wouldn't want to hit on random women in public places and creep them out"
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