Girlfriend had me on auto reject list wtf?

[Anonymous]

Ok for the past few days my gf kept saying her charger isn't working well and her phone dies. Well today we been texting but when I call it goes straight to voicemail... So I text her saying why does my call go to vm so she calls me and I told her what happens she said she doesn't know.. Then a few minutes after we hung up I did a rest call and it rings... Confirmed she had me on auto reject list and she got caught and she removed me from it...

Im not sure if I should tell her by phone or in person on confronting her...

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+1 y

Is there any other explanation on why my calls would go straight to voicemail when her phone is on?

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+1 y

When I called it would ring once and then go the voicemail.

[emmabee11]

From all the comments i've read you seem to want to believe your gf is cheating on you so much that you won't even think that maybe she isn't and that she is just having a life... everything you have said still isn't proof she is some how cheating, i bet you would say the same even when she was only away for just 3 hours... or any amount of time that she didn't tell you where you were... even just 1 hour... you would flip... but she is a big girl and she doesn't need your permission to go places... it really sounds like you have problems trusting people, as people have said phones these days can go wonky and it's true because it even keeps turning outo-correct back on even when you can turn it off... lol. There is just no real proof here she is cheating on you, the hoody isn't any proof ether, i can honestly say if you don't start letting her have her own life away from you your going to lose her and she's already pulling away.

[Asker]

It's more I hope she is not cheating... Just life experience and my gut is telling me she is... She said she didn't do it but when I told her about she saw my number on spam list. I can't see how that can accidentally happen right after she went out and didn't come home until 3pm the next day and her phone was dead the whole time... Time will tell if she was cheating you can't hide that forever and we were best friends before we got together if she values me I hope she can come clean and tell me so we can break up and just be friends I can respect the honesty but if I find out with out her telling me she is dead to me...

[emmabee11]

People party out late these days... when i used to go to the clubs i sometimes slept over at the girls house i was friends with but doesn't mean i was up to anything because i wasn't... we wouldn't get out of the club until 4am and then i would stay at hers ether for another hour or 2 or stayed over because i was actually way too tired to go any where... lol i was litterely falling asleep on her sofa, it's just the culture these days. She also told you she was feeling smothered but you didn't listen to her at all... if she is telling the truth but you keep fussng and accusing her of things even for 1 hour of unnacounted time... she really isn't going to like you much right now... and i can feel you both just falling away from each other, i would honestly do the same thing and put you on reject if you being this needy to me because you just ween't making the experience of dating you nice at all... how can she even enjpy hanging with friends when you are upsetting her?

[emmabee11]

I would honestly turn your phone off, not go on Facebook or Skype and try to calm down and gan some perspective because it's just not proof at all... if not then she's just gonna end up breaking up with you and then you can blow up her phone even more if you wish with insults and accusations you can't even prove... you jsut sound like you have a lot of insecurities to deal with but that's nobodirs fault, so i think you should both take some time apart too maybe? so you can then get yourself together instead of being so aggresive towardds her.

[KindHeartedBeauty]

Nope she definitely put you on the auto reject list because I did it to someone before, then tested with another person by telling them to call me after I blocked them and them. After I took it off I asked the person what did they hear and she said it rang once then went straight to VM. She was still able to text me with the block on tho, so I know for sure she did it. Dump her or ask her why tf would she do that. Maybe she's sneaking around & don't want your calls to come through while she's with the other guy. Just a thought!

[Asker]

She brook it off with me this morning... She did it again this past weekend she was gone for a whole day and her phone was off this time and I was pissed... She won't admit but I think she broke up with me because she knew I was onto her... I hope it works out a the other guy I already know who it is...

[KindHeartedBeauty]

Good. She did you a favor! She's a loser you'll find someone better!

[Asker]

It's crazy she breaks up with me in the morning then text me at night asking me I'm I ok... Ummmm I just got played? I just replied chilling... Then today she text I'm I ok again... I replied I'm great can't talk right now... Geez what is up with her?

[KindHeartedBeauty]

The next time she text you IGNORE HER! She broke up with you for no reason really, so that's it. She's trying to get you to talk to her to remove some of the guilt and maybe even regret that she has for breaking up with you. MOVE ON! I know it's easier said then done, but the more you respond to her she's going to keep you on the hook. Yes it happens to guys too.

[Asker]

Break up for nothing? Oh well but she works with me but I took the rest if the week off work to get away from her. Wouldn't ignoring her make her mad or whatever? I'll just ignore bc she was very cold on the break up pretty much said the opposite of all the feelings she had for me.

[Asker]

Guess keep me in the hook invade it doesn't work out with the other guy lol how pathetic.

[Blacklighthoney]

She has your number blocked. Blocked numbers will ring and she will not hear it and the calls go directly into voicemail. You are able to text her because she hasn't blocked it. My guess is she is an iPhone user. I've only seen this with these devices. I know, I've done it to people I don't want to talk too.

[Anonymous]

If it's only been going on 'a few days' then maybe it's just some kind of mistake. If it carries on, then I agree with the other comments that she's cheating or thinking about it, and even if she's not, this is not the behavior of someone invested in being your girlfriend. If this sort of behavior continues then dump her.

[Asker]

Your close to my age, so you think I shouldn't say anything now and just wait to see if she does it again? She is 39

[Asker]

Well on Friday she went out but didn't come home until 3pm the next day... And her phone died, goes straight to voicemail. Then after she got home the phone ring once and then goes to voicemail... That means auto reject feature I think. It was like that all weekend until I called her out. But she denies it

[Opinion Owner]

If she's fooling around behind your back or even just mentally straying from the relationship, the pattern will become more obvious soon enough, so I think give her the benefit of the doubt for now. I have had my touchscreen smartphone do all sorts of strange things when it was in my pocket unlocked, and sometimes phones do have battery/charger problems. If these funny 'problems' become chronic then there is a relationship problem. Think about whether there are other signs she may be unhappy in the relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

PS I may be biased here as my wife's currently cheating on me. If you've only had suspicious behavior for a few days, then yeah, don't say anything now. As long as she doesn't know you are suspicious, you might be more likely to also be do things like be able to sneakily check her phone messages for anything funny.. if she thinks you suspecft something she will delete all suspect messages.

[Opinion Owner]

I would also think about how long you have been with her, if you've been with her years and it's now just this few days, and especially if she seems otherwise happy in the relationship, then you may have nothing to worry about. If you don't know her that well (e. g. if you've only known one another a few months) or if there are other signs she's either unhappy or likes to fool around then it is more dubious.

[Opinion Owner]

And do not get her pregnant now

[Asker]

We were friends for 5 months and seeing each other for 2 months. She swore we were meant to be. But yes her behavior has been kind of pulling away for the past 2 weeks now and she is being with her phone. I confronted her about her phone and she showed me her texts and nothing, she knows I'm on to her so she is prob more in a rush to pull away before getting caught. Her being unhappy is just when we first hooked up we couldn't get enough of each other and we were with each other every day so we both got smothered. But that is a fixable problem and no reason to cheat.. If she is cheating that's her character bc getting to know her she seems to like to keep ex bf as friends and every time she has an issue w the current bf instead of addressing the issue she goes to the other guy.. I know this bc I was that guy. I think she can't be alone even if it's just a guy friend.

[Asker]

She told me she used the going out thing to get away from me she needed breathing room. I just don't like how she just does something her communication skills seem to be lacking she waits until it's too late... She also said she feels uncomfortable bc she feels I'm snooping. Well it's bc she was texting her ex when we first got together and that made me feel uncomfortable so that day forward every time she gets text I get weird and she thinks I'm some jealous guy etc... This is prob the last week we will be dating...

[Opinion Owner]

It does sound like cheating, and it sounds like that's her character. Well I suppose the psychology of why people cheat is complex, e. g. possible unhappy childhood etc or bad role models, but the bottom line is at this point it's probably not something you want to be dealing with in your life. If you've only invested 7 months, that's not a lot.. at least you didn't marry her and have a baby.. me, I am trying to forgive my wife and move on for the sake of our child but she still won't admit it even though I found messages pretty much proving it, I have a long haul ahead of me.

[Opinion Owner]

And I mean as for me, my wife doesn't know I snooped her messages, and I don't have a way to admit I know she cheated without admitting I snooped her messages, I told her I 'suspect' and that I want her to come clean with me, she just lies to my face that nothing's going on. She saw 'him' just this weekend and thinks I don't know.

[Asker]

Man it hurts my heart to think she cheated in me... Bc we were close friends... Ok here is more info she told me she was taking her daughter to her bfs house and she was going to hang out with the bf mother. She then said they went to the bf cousin house after the game and that's when they ended up being up until 4am. The 2nd daughter who is 12 called me wondering were her mom is and she told me her sister who was with the mom sent a text from the bf phone at 2am saying "hey were still here". So that's the only thing that gives me the benefit of the doubt that she is telling the truth. Because I first thought she just dropped the daughter off then went to the guys place... That text to the other daughter is what's keeping me here until I see something else...

[Asker]

The text saying "were" tells me the daughter was with the mother. That one is 16 and from what I see the mother wouldn't bring her around another guy when they know I'm the boyfriend for role model purposes.

[Grosayfious255]

Just let it go and move on. Are you guys struggling in your relationship or something?

[Asker]

No struggle we were friends and we compliment each other and she all of the sudden did a 180 last week... She went out I Friday and didn't come home until 3 pm Saturday she said she had too much to drink and crashed at her friends place. Her daughter was with her to confirm but Sunday and today is when I noticed it would ring once and then go the voicemail.

[Prettygurl12]

My phone magically sends people to voice mail without ringing and lots of times it lets me phantom call people where it rings on my end for ever and ever and ever even though they for sure have a voice mail set up and after like 20 rings I just give up and learn that the calls never went through.

I didn't know it was possible to set someone to auto-ignore.

[Asker]

You can auto ignore with android phones.

[Prettygurl12]

Really? I have one of those. I'm gonna go figure out how! :p

[PlayasClub777]

You sure you her boyfriend and not just claiming the title LOL. BECAUSE WOMEN ONLY DO THAT TO GUYS THEY DON'T WANT TO TALK TOO UNLESS SHE IS GETTING READY TO LEAVE JUST PREPARE SOME KLEENEX IN YOUR POCKET BRO I THINK A BREAK UP IS COMING SOON LMAO.

[imveryloser]

Im laughing omg but aw WHY NOT BE OPTIMISTIC ABOUT THINGS? LOL

[PlayasClub777]

I wish I could, but then I be lying to him gotta give negative comments so he won't be so down when it actually happens and sorry for the caps bro.

[Asker]

Well her kids know I'm the boyfriend and she says I'm her boyfriend. I just got off the phone and I kept picking with her about it but she kept saying I wasn't on reject list

[PlayasClub777]

Lol I know you are, but she cheating on you bro don't listen to any of these rest call comments if it was it wouldn't have done it more than once she was out with another dude and didn't want him to think who could that be calling her she trying to find a new spark bro, so you better change up what you're doing or else it's bye bye.

[PlayasClub777]

I mean change it up whatever you're doing because she might be losing interest in you it's just not the same anymore like when she first met you, but only if you really really love her and want to keep her.

[PlayasClub777]

Not like when she first met you because a relationship obviously won't stay like that, but you know what I meant.

[PlayasClub777]

You could fight for her love, but we just don't know if it's worth it.

[Asker]

She tells me I'm her best friend and she would never do anything to hurt me we are really super close. We were good friends before dating but I never saw this side of her. It's only been 2 months of dating so I'm thinking about breaking it off tomorrow just tell her were better off as friends and walk away.

[DestinyAngel3132]

I have the same problem just the other way round. I think. Cause this morning ( and quite a few other times) I called him and it went right to voice mail. I texted him but he didn't answer at all! And I'd been texting him every two three hours. Cause I REALLY need to talk to him but he won't pick up.

[rosedream]

I m not sure about going straight to voice mail. But ur gf put u in auto-reject maybe because she doesn't wanna talk to u. It's quite obvious. She texts u, right? So it means she just doesn't want to talk to u. Try to find out if she is annoyed for something; maybe in her work or her family. Don't blame her too early. Find the possible reason first.

[HoshiOMitte]

It could be a mistake. with all the scam call these days, I'm adding new numbers to auto reject list almost every day as soon as I got those calls. It could be that she accidentally ticked your number among the call log. But if it bugs you, ask her directly.

[Anonymous]

I use to work in the wireless industry, from your story it sounds like she may have had you auto reject. If a phone doesn't rind AT ALL and goes straight to vm then the phone is turned off. If it rings and then goes to voicemail either they sent you to vm or you're on auto reject. At times two people can call at once. It depends on how often you have contacted her to determine if you were auto reject.

[Asker]

I waited 3 days to determine she has me on auto reject and forgot to take me off.

[Opinion Owner]

Sure she forgot.

[Asker]

She broke up w me on Monday guess I was on to her and she didn't want to get caught lol

[Opinion Owner]

Smh now you know

[Anonymous]

She might have another boyfriend. Just saying I cheated before.. that's what I did to the other guy bc I could still text but didn't wanna chance him calling or text come through while with hubby. P. s. I know I was wrong! I'm now single.. did my crime did my time!

[Asker]

Yea she forgot to take my number off reject... We talked today and she said she thinks her daughter did it because her daughter uses te phone I said nope it's been like that since Saturday... She claims she never knew my number was blocked until I brought it up. I'm starting to think she is cheating.

[Opinion Owner]

Darn that sucks. I would ask her straight out in person (if she's seeing someone else) to see her reaction.

[Asker]

She tells me no. Ok last wed she went missing for 6 hours and when I finally talked to her she said she was her brother and she just dropped him off. Next day I come over amd there was a brand new hoodie size XL. Then Friday she told me she was gng to hang w friends oh and her phone battery was low so when she left her phone died. She never came home so I got worried and she came home at 3pm the next day she had the new hoodie on. I waited at her place bc I didn't know what was going on. Weird thing is she his the hoodie away I guess she thought I didn't notice. Sunday she doesn't want to hang and that's when I notice the phone was on and I was on auto reject... She tells me she feels smothered in our relationship so she needed to get away from me. I asked her about the hoodie she said her ex got that for her while they were dating. I said do now you pull it out? She said cuz it's cold...

[Asker]

So I told her based on what she has told me it sounds like she met up with her ex on weds and he gave her a gift the new hoodie of her favorite team. Then on Friday she wore that hoodie and they either went to the game that night or watched it at his place and she crashed there... I told her this is the first time she has ever done anything like this and she didn't even have the eager of wanting to come home to get her charger so she can get in contact with me.

[Opinion Owner]

Ouch, I'm sorry to hear that. Something is going on.. all of those things combined really makes me think there's someone else. Especially coming home w XL hoodue 3:00 the next day, being unreachable when she wasn't before.. dump her and move in, your health, dignity, and happiness are not worth it. Once my ex took me back so easily (cried, begged, promised to never c other guy again.. but I did 😳) after I cheated, I kind of lost respect for him & he never trusted me again. I ended up breaking up with him after 2 years.. I knew I would eventually cheat again _sex sucked.. that may not be the case for you) & he deserved better. I thought it'd be easier to start over than fix us.

[Asker]

The only thing that gives me a benefit of a doubt is when she went out it was her and her 16 year old daughter. She was taking the daughter to her boyfriends house so they can see each other and my gf was suppose to chill with the mom for girl talk. She told me they then went to their cousins house and they drink until 4am and they crashed. What's is saving them is her 12 year old me and were in touch trying to figure out were they were. The 12 yo told me the 16 yo text her around 2am saying "were still here". The word Were is what helped a little that means she was with the mom... My gf then told me that hoodie was a gift from her ex when they were dating she just never wore it but she wore it for the game since it's her fav team... What do you think now?

[Asker]

I know the mom is huge on olaying the good mom because when we first got together she did not want her kids to know and the kids knew me as a friend. Now they know I'm the boyfriend and I don't think she would take te daughter the bf and use them as an excuse to see another man when they know about me.

[Opinion Owner]

That's plausible. I stay at my friend's pretty late almost every Friday . 3 or 4 of us get together (with or without kids), I usually go home but my friend Courtney and her daughter stay overnight a lot.. so it's plausible!

If you trust her & don't think she cheated then stop worrying yourself and don't keep questioning her! Just don't be naive if you end up on auto reject again.

[Asker]

Update she did it again this past Friday she said she was going to a girlfriends house and went ghost she didn't come home until 1pm the next day and said her phone died and won't even charge... And bc the phone won't charge I never heard from her the whole weekend. Then this morning she sends me a long break up text... Basically saying it's her not me I'm perfect bullshit so I drove to her place and wanted to talk to her in person about the text... She still denies says there is no man in the picture. I pressed my head to her head and told her she was beautiful and cried and wished her the best and walked off... Oh well I got played but I'm not mad just sad...

[shadowlegend]

Confront her in person. If a woman doesn't want your call coming through, she's doing something you won't like or she doesn't want whoever it is to see your call.

[khataza]

Exactly my point

[Cj4TheWin]

Sometimes phones fuck up, one of my friend's phone sometimes just randomly fuck up.
It does say somethhing about your relationship that you automaticilly assume you're on an auto-reject list.

[Asker]

What does it say? Last night she told me my number was on there but she thinks her daughter did it... Lmao

[miserybusiness]

First of all
How long has there been an auto reject list option and why am I not using it on everyone I know
Hahaha kidding

Have you been annoying her lately? Spamming her with calls? Maybe she wanted some space

[Asker]

We were close friends and we hooked up and on that honey moon hi so were spent nearly every for 2 months together so yes we did smother each other. We worked it out and agreed to create space now. It would suck if she used that reason to cheat that is an easy fix.

[Dєѕιвσу]

Trust is already broken no matter she did something wrong or not. You must quit relationship because it's already dying.

[Asker]

How is the trust broken?

[missjayne]

She is cheating. Doesn't matter how you confront her, just ditch her unfaithful ass.

[Asker]

Yea she doesn't have much to say I keep joking with her on the phone saying oh no I'll be on the reject list lol

[missjayne]

That is really sad...

[Asker]

What's sad is we were best friends before we hooked up I never saw this side of her and for her to ruin what we have. When we first hooked up she said we were meant to be together and was gods path etc... Guess we were not meant to be.

[Mysterio421]

Just break up with her. You know what's happening and are just avoiding the inevitable. The whole phone issue is already a red flag.

[Asker]

She went out on Friday night and came home Saturday at 3pm and her phone died... That's why I'm watching her now. I might break it off tomorrow.

[harakiri]

That doesn't soud plausible. My phone acts up like that all the time.

[Asker]

It was like that all weekend and after I call her out on how I can't call it starts to ring again... Fishy

[PlayasClub777]

He says Fishy lol oh man it's gonna hit him so hard.

[Asker]

Hit me hard how?

[PlayasClub777]

Yea because you said it sounds fishy, but it's obvious she's cheating that's why I said when you find out it's gonna hit you hard.

[Asker]

Well she ended up breaking up with me by text lol. So I went to her place and she still denies she is with someone else... But I wished her the best and left she then tried to call me a hour later but I didn't pick up

[itselectric]

maybe you should hear her out first and be really calm about it. ask her if she's upset or if there's anything she needs to tell you. and then go with your gut instinct to let it go or whatever..

[Hannah591]

It could've been a mistake or a phone problem. Tell her innocently and see what she says. Don't get angry or accuse her of anything.

[Izzex3]

Lol.
Maybe she was mad at you for something.
I do that sometimes when I'm annoyed.
Ask her about it.

[Asker]

This weekend she went to go hang out with friends and her phone died and she didn't come home until 3pm and after that I notice when I call the phone ring once then vm. The only thing validating the night out is her daughter was with her.

[Egyptdashi1]

I'm sorry to say, but she's cheating. But you need more evidence to confront her.

[Asker]

What evidence? I'm thinking of just breaking it off it's been only 2 months.

[girl111m]

tell her in person but dont be to rude maybe something different happen tell her what you think and let her talk too.

[Asker]

What can possibly happen? On Friday she told me she was gng to friends house to drink and will be home by 1am and she didn't come home until 3pm the next day. She said she had too much to drink and crashed. Plus her phone died it went straight to voicemail. Then Saturday Sunday and Monday wen I call her phone it rings 1 time then goes to voicemail...

[girl111m]

I dont know she can be talking with someone or her phone was off or its just not working well. or she may been at a basement or something like that and the signal wasn't really good.

[MJas16]

Msybe her phone acts up or she just dodnt want to talk at all. Dont junp to conclusions

[Asker]

She went out on Friday night ad didn't come home until 3pm the next day...

[MJas16]

Ohhhh then I say you two should have a talk

[Asker]

We did she doesn't know why she claims she didn't know