I'm 19 years old, I live with my parents. At first they used to adore the guy but it later turned into hatred. He made one mistake of overdosing on his prescription pills, he's done it twice. I know he doesn't have a problem but my mother doesn't want me to talk or see him ever again.
We used to see each other almost everyday, but I had a curfew of 10pm. He used to think that was ridiculous because I am an adult and I should make my own curfews. Since then the curfews got sooner and eventually they ceased to exist meaning, I was unable to hang out with him anymore.
We tried breaking up with each other because of it but he always comes back saying he'll wait however long and we can work through it, I love you.
Today he wanted me to come hang out with him without my mom knowing, I cancelled because I wasn't feeling well and my anxiety was at an all time high. He told me, it's fine... I don't really care much anymore. I am starting to give up, sorry.
He thinks I am not fighting hard enough to see him but he doesn't understand that if I fight back she will throw me out and every time I tell him that, he says he'll take me in and he could provide for me.
I don't know what to do, I love him too much to let him go and I also think it's unfair to him, I am hurting him more every time.
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I can imagine that your mother is just trying to protect you. If you are in love, maybe you see things in a more optimistic way; most people do not overdose on anything, let alone twice, so maybe she is thinking that being with him could become dangerous for you one way or another.
Fortunately, since you're not a child anymore, you can make your own decisions for yourself. Unfortunately, that also means that you can make bad decisions, and you must live with the consequences of your choices either way.
I cannot advise you whether it's better to give in to your parents and break up with the guy, or whether it's better to leave your parents and try a life with the guy; I do advise you though not to go behind your parents' backs. If you choose the breakup, end the relationship for good. If you want to stay with the guy even if it means moving out from your parents' place, tell it to them, and hope they understand (though be prepared to really move out in case push comes to shove).1