It seems like it's more common and acceptable to see a large man with a skinny girl, than it is to see a skinny man with a large girl. Large men who get the skinny girl are "praised" for their "sweet find", however if a skinny man is dating a large girl, he's berated for being "interested in a hog". Do you think this is a problem? Do you chock it up to the "since forever" long stigma that women must be forever beautiful, perfect, skinny flowers in order to be dateable? What's your opinion on this double standard?
What's your opinion on the overweight double standard in dating and relationships?
What Guys Said 7
What double standard? If you're fat you get flak whether you're a guy or a gal. The problem however is that men is supposed to be the one taking initiative.
It's thus positive for a fat guy to get a skinny girl (ie he got someone "out of his league"), but negative for a skinny guy to get a fat girl (ie picking someone under his standard).
As for the girl, she's just the one being courted.
Sorry, but that's life and that's what you get for wanting men to do all the hard work in dating.
Back on the double standard, I don't see one. It's not ok to be fat, and each couple is judged from the perspective of the initiator (the guy). Is it sexist? Maybe, but it's true.
And ultimately there is no double standard, because everyone is judged from the same perspective. It's just that said perspective does not favor all kinds of situations0
I haven't noticed this double standard. I don't care who other people date. You're implying that thin is more often attractive according to society while your surprised at the praise for men dating a thin woman. I don't see why you're surprised at that. I can see why you're frustrated though. The praising men thing is because many in society look at men as sort of the one that GOT the person. Conquered in a way. Like how it's more often for men to be the initial pursuer. I imagine that's why men tend to get praise and not women so much.2
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Men and women prioritize different things. If men cared about a woman's ability to make them laugh, confidence, charm and career, for example, as much as women cared about men's, then men would have to be less picky than they are when it comes to looks.0
And if a fat girl finds a skinny or muscular guy, she gets praised too.
The truth is, being overweight makes it harder for both genders to get some.0
Its sucked life is not fair both genders face double standards its not easy being any living creature trust me.0
Actually a lot of my friends and people I know who are skinny have dated big chicks. As for the making fun, it's just messing around, we even make jokes about skinny chicks. It doesn't matter if the girl is skinny or not if she's unattractive guys make jokes about her, being fat is just one more thing to make a joke about I guess.0
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What Girls Said 1
As a larger girl myself it's crap haha.
The way people look and you know they're thinking 'what a brave man for settling for a fat girl.. Poor girl though he's obviously cheating on her'
I hate society haha. But to be honest if the guy doesn't pay any attention too it and we're solid then whatever, screw people haha!
Good question :)7
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