Okay so I'm in a weird situation. so I started talking to this guy in July, and he didn't make it official until November. He lives really far away and I've only been able to visit him a few times. Once when I met him, and the second when he made it official. We have plans to see each other over Valentine's day and Spring Break. When we were in the talking stage, a guy from my past came back into my life and started talking to me, and at that point, my boyfriend (at that time just talking, not dating yet) and I hadn't talked much cause we were busy, and I was feeling really lonely. I've never tried long distance and it was really hard for me. So this other guy was texting me about how much he missed me and such, and he started talking about things that we had done and stuff, and started saying things that he knows get to me. I wound up sending him a few suggestive pictures, and immediately felt guilty. I hated myself. I left. I deleted his number and lost all contact with him. But then I got really bad anxiety about the guy I was talking to (now boyfriend) finding out, and though I've really wanted to tell him, I just haven't brought myself to it because I don't want him to leave me. I love him. He's the best thing that's ever happened to me. I've got a long message typed out that I want to send him. Again, this was when we were not officially in a relationship. I've since only been talking to him and no one else. He's my one and only. How do y'all think he's going to react? I'm really scared that he's going to leave me.. I can't lose him.. It makes me sick to my stomach.. I absolutely hate it.. But I know he deserves to know. Nothing physical happened, so I didn't technically cheat. But I just wanted other opinions about it. I'm really scared.
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He said things that he knows get to you?
So... He was manipulating you into sending suggestive pictures to him?
And this is a guy you want to give your mind, body, heart and soul to?
Bad idea, hon. Your heart is deceiving you. Any man who would manipulate you to do something that makes you feel dirty and guilty later is selfish, and evil.
I know you want to keep some people in your life, but they will only ultimately keep you feeling dirty, and guilty, because they know they can manipulate you to do their bidding.
Your BEST BET is to keep his number deleted. Take the long text you have and delete, it too. Find a man who will love and respect you and cringes if he EVER asks you to do ANYTHING that makes you uncomfortable.
Anyway, reading on, if this new guy truly loves you, and cares for your heart and soul, then he might be hurt by what you did, but he will not leave you. You are repentent- which is major. You are sorry. It eats at you.
Tell him, if your conscience is crying out to do it. I hope this man is willing to love you in celibacy and loves you for your heart, rather than your body. That is a man worth keeping, regardless of how you may, or may not feel about it.0